Jose Hernandez -- Nigerian Scammer part 2

Jose decided to write yet again to the reader that sent us his hideous email. He got that reader for 700 dollars. And for all you ladies he is talking to, he wrote our reader that he already has a woman in his life that is there with him. (Yeah right). Anyway, here is more of Jose and his stupidity. Glad we could "stain" him a second time lol. Yeah, he went to college...........

From: MJD <midavell@gmail.com>
To:XXXXX
Sent: Saturday, November 12, 2011 2:35 PM
Subject: Re:

Oh! Saw your post.. Yourself and your friend did a really nice job trying to stain me. I am surprised you didnt include on the website that you fell for it? Again, I would say.. I am not a SCAMMER and I belong to a real woman now who appreciates a real man. She discovered the site, but it wont make much difference as she is here with me. I am hoping this new strategy of posting my info online is giving you closure and putting money into your bank account, I advice you continue. Just incase you care to know, I am now in Provo, UT.

Dont bother us anymore.

-Jose.

Jose Hernandez -- Yet Another Nigerian Scammer

This story was sent in by a great lady and reader. She sends us all the scammers she encounters. This latest scammer, Jose, talked to her for a long time through email and instant messages. Then came the money request. He needed it to store his heavy machinery. He needed 625 dollars to store them OVERNIGHT. When questioned, he sent her a photo of bulldozers. Not of him in front of the bulldozers, just a random picture of bulldozers. I guess he thought that was going to prove to her that the heavy machinery actually existed. WRONG!!! Here is Jose Hernandez's initial email, and boy is it a long one.........my commentary is in purple.


Message from Jose
Monday, July 18, 2011 4:39 AM
From:
"MJD" View contact details
To:

Hi XXX,

Good Morning from Lagos.. How are you doing today? It feels so good to hear from you.. I get really busy with work and I hope you'll understand that in future if my response arrives late, LOL.. Thanks for the note and your comments. I want to assume you are aware that Kathy is my only daughter. I would like to ask before writing anything that would make me forget. Hope its not a problem that I have a child? And I am also hoping you wont have a problem accepting us as a package, if we ever end up being together. We all want the best for our kids and all I want is for her to have a happy life and healthy relationship with my special woman. I am delighted about how expressive and straight you were in your previous note. I want a serious relationship.. I am not getting any younger and more importantly, I am tired of being lonely. I have missed so many things you cant get unless you are with a partner and I want to make up with time... I am looking for that special woman I can spend the rest of my life, loving and adoring!

Opening my mail to find a mail waiting to be read from you, brought a smile to my face. I am so glad you wrote and I must apologize for the inadequate information in my previous notes. Reading from you makes me so confident about telling you more and more about myself, my life, my wants, my past and my hopes. (He could have stopped that sentence after the word "myself") Sorry I didn't send this mail before now. I got your mail last night but I was ready to sleep and couldn't respond right away. I am taking my time to write this letter before starting my day, after reading your profile again. Kindly take the time to read through. First and foremost, how long have you been looking online? Any good experience? I havent been on the site till lately when I contacted you. I have made up my mind to take the time necessary, to write a detailed email to you, that's why I am writing this email NOW, making sure nothing will disturb or distract me.. (Is this really necessary? To go on and on about basically nothing?)

I have realized so many things about life and I am looking for that special woman to share these experiences and all that life has to offer. (He kinda said that already several times)In my previous marriage, one thing I learned is keeping relationship matters within ourselves and not seeking other people's (who doesn't feel what the couple feels) advice. (Read: Don't tell anyone about me, especially when I ask you for money) I also believe in openness and honesty. (He may believe in it, he just doesn't practice it) With secrets, no relationship will last. OK. A little about me, I am José Hernandez - Douglas, 6ft 2", blue/green eyes, dark brown hair.. I am a Civil Engineer (Construction). I turned 46yrs young on the 31st day of January, LOL! (Jan 31st, 1965). Your turn, tell me some basics about you. More about your job, personality, etc.. Just random stuffs about you. ("Stuffs" huh? And here you were trying to sound so educated.)

Also, what do you think about our age differences. I am divorced. My EX who happened to be my daughter's mom re-married after our divorce and was involved in an accident which took her life and that of her husband. It was a shocker on me and my daughter. Even though we are divorced, she WAS once the love of my life and will forever remain the mother of my daughter. (Of course she will remain the mother of your daughter you idiot)I was born in Majorca, Spain on the 31st day of January 1965, (thanks for including the birthdate again, we may have forgotten it since 6 sentences have gone by) moved with my family to Duluth, GA immediately after my birth. I later moved in with my Uncle in Jamaica, NY when I was 7 years old; after the death of both parents. I lost my dad when I was 6 years old; he had a heart attack when he was in a surgery. I lived with my mom in Duluth for another year and later moved to NY when she died. I guess because of the undying love between them, she forgot she has an only son and left me in the world as an orphan. She just didn't stay long after his death before she died.

More about me; (Thanks for letting us know Jose, we thought you were going to start talking about someone else. *idiot*) I am a very kind-hearted man and I have learnt (obviously Jose you have not learned how to spell) that in life, the only things I can count on is my creator, my instincts and my woman. (And you learned you can count on women by the mother and wife you obviously couldn't count on?) I have been hurt a lot and hope that I will find the right woman for me. I am very serious about meeting my significant partner and I am not ready for games at all. I hope to meet this special woman I can show love to and spend the rest of my life with. I adore children and care about my daughter a lot. I attended the University of Glasgow, in Scotland where I had my B.Sc Civil Engineering. I am very laid-down (don't you mean laid back Jose? What did they teach you at that University anyway?) and down-to-earth. I am also very old-fashioned when it comes to my respect and treatment for women. I am a social wine drinker but a non-smoker, have a great sense of humor and like to spend time with people and make them laugh. (wow, how unique, someone who likes to spend time with people and make them laugh) I have always memorized this quote and it has happened to be my favorite quote + I believe in it strongly: A man can love a thousand different women, but it takes a REAL MAN to love a woman a thousand different ways. (Yeah Jose, just change it to: A scammer can write to a thousand different women, but it take a REAL SCUMBAG to scam a woman a thousand different ways)

I have lived in Anchorage, Alaska. I have lived in St. Albans NY. I was living in Houston, TX before I had to leave for work in March '08. I have been in Africa since that time for a Special Project. (And it must be special since Jose felt the need to capitalize it.) The Construction of New Homes and Renovating the Old ones for Orphans and Less Privileged. Its an innovation of UNICEF and the Peace Corps for the West African States and financed by the Nigerian Government. The project covers five (5) different countries in West Africa; Ghana, Nigeria, Togo, Ivory Coast and Benin Republic. Funding and appraisal is being taken care of by the Nigerian Government. I should be out of here in less than a month, the project shouldn't take this long but because of some unforeseen circumstances, the whole process has been delayed and its taking longer than anticipated. We are at the last country now, which is Nigeria, and the entire project should be concluded between now and the next two weeks.. (and in two weeks he will send a request for funds)

I am divorced (you said that already Jose) and completely unattached and would be glad if I encounter a woman of high caliber, good attitude, self respect and ambition. (and that will send him money) A woman who knows what she wants and is determined to get it. She has to be understanding and sincere that way a relationship would be smoother. Well, at a point in my last marriage I started suspecting my ex's dishonesty and later caught her in bed with my best friend. (and this is how Jose learned from his experiences he can count on women?)Ever since, I have vowed never to get married again, I did try after our divorce but got burnt (long story). I have been hurt badly and that leaves me with a negative impression about women in general. But my daughter has made me understand that all women are not the same. So, I am all out of my cave now to meet that special woman that is just for me. I do believe in soul-mates. More so, this life is very short and I do want to be happy the little time, I have left to live on this planet earth (as opposed to Mars).. I am afraid of growing old alone when Kathy is all grown and out of the home.. I know for sure, that God has the right woman for me when the time comes.

Kathy happens to be my ONLY daughter now (I thought she was his only daughter the whole time? wtf is he talking about?), I love her so much and I am trying to raise her to be one of the rare breed out there: a humble lady who stands by her words, reliable, reputable, independent, self-confident, knows her worth, loves God, treats people (more especially older people) with respect, focused, disciplined, be playful, be fun, great sense of humor always and be a warrior with a tender heart. As for fun: I like mentally stimulating activities and also I like fun. (He did NOT just write he likes "fun"! Is there someone who doesn't like fun?)I adore adventure-traveling, to feel and research the culture of the countries and learn new things. To just hop in the car someday with my family and drive across the States. I enjoy reading, watching movies, swimming, dancing. I like nature: trees, forest, ocean, mountains, beach, zoo. (Jose felt the need to elaborate on what kind of nature he likes. ugh.) I am passionate about flowers, basically nature! (Enough with the nature already!) I like camping, fishing, cycling, biking, golf, all kinds of sports - like the indoors too, I also like the city life. I take a walk when the weather's mild, but go to the pool with my daughter, or sometimes the beach when it's sunny! (So, to sum it up, Jose likes outdoors and indoors. He likes the country and the city. And let's not forget nature.)


Well, it is said that when a relationship ends and you've tried your best, God knows, it is best to move on, and that there is someone waiting, someone special, until then we have our life to rebuild, to do good unto others, to bring joy, even to those we have left behind. The universe has a funny way of circling and recycling. Its rotating, we can not go back unless it is foreseen. There are no rhymes or reason to love. You either love or you do not. (Jose just cut and pasted a bunch of refrigerator-magnet type quotes and put them all together)I want to fall in love again, I am ready and willing to go into a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. Depending on who I meet and her wants, marriage is a possibility not a MUST. I am looking for someone who is secure, balanced, stable, open and knows what she wants in a partner and in life. I want someone who is not afraid of commitment, someone who can communicate well, both with words, feelings and body languages. Someone who will treat me as an equal and not an object. A good sense of humor, outgoing, likes horses and all other animals too.( And she BETTER like NATURE) A romantic person, someone who is not afraid to cook dinner once in a while! Someone who will walk beside me and not in front of or behind me, someone who loves kids and is able to get dirty one minute and get dressed, to go out the next minute. Diversity, maturity, stability, independence and just all-around, imperfect for the world but perfect for me. (I am so ready to throw up.)

A magic relationship, you know when you are sad, when you feel alone, when the world look out so terrible, when people maim and even kill each other, then you need some place to run away, some place where you can feel safe, there you can feel that nothing, none can touch you, hurt you. (that's what the Police Station is for Jose) Exactly that is a relationship for me. I want a family, a home, full of tenderness, sincerity, faithfulness and above all peace. I want love, of-course lots of love. I consider myself good-looking, I am a nice person as well, at-least the people I have had to deal with on daily basis confirmed that. I am sociable. I am affectionate and romantic, friendly and confident. I am open-minded and cheerful. I am trying to describe myself as much as I can with words (someone elses, the rest made up) so you know what to look forward to if things eventually work out for the two of us..(which they won't) That's my hope and the reason why I am making my fingers dance so much on the keyboard, to the rhythm of my heart!! (ok, at this point, EVERYONE should be vomiting)

I work hard and I want to grow both in my job, personally with my daughter as I have always done and now with the woman that I have been waiting for all my life. I just want to fall in love again and I feel "NOW" is the time, I am done with kids except my partner wants another, either by adoption or who knows? The last time I checked, menopause isn't for men, LOL. (menopause is not a word a male should put in his first email to any woman, ever) I am romantic, humorous, caring, loving and faithful. (You said that already. Like 100 times, in a hundred different ways)I hope to find and meet a lady to fall in love with. (Please, write it ONE MORE TIME so we get it, the first 5 went right over our head)I am clever, intelligent, communicative, honest and ready for commitments but also I would like her to be sweet, faithful, caring, comprehensive, family lover, elegant, cheerful and LOVE KIDS. (Jose also likes looking up synonyms in the dictionary, but what he needs to look up is the definition of REPETATIVE) Its really important because I don't want to put my daughter in any jeopardy or in any sort of danger with whoever I end up sharing my future with, a nice family with strong feelings. I am very responsible, kind, calm, serious (just when it's necessary), confident, purposeful, persistent, smart, honest, modest, loyal, flexible, sociable, sensitive, gentle, cheerful, optimistic, considered responsible and with a great sense of humor. (Step away from the thesaurus and the dictionary Jose, this is an intervention) This all sounds like an advertisement, lol.. but anyway I am a bit.... stubborn - in a good way, of-course! (of course!! You are perfect!)

I would love someone who is fun to be around (most guys like women who are a total drag to be around, but not our Jose!), likes to laugh, funny, enjoys the outdoor, (nature) enjoys going for romantic walks, enjoys looking at the stars at night, and watching the Sunset rise over the ocean. I am looking for someone that enjoys the simple things in life, just like I do. I like to meet someone special that I can grow old with, and that we can always look into each other's eyes in decades and realize that the love between us is just as wonderful, strong and exciting as the day we met. I want to love a woman for who she is, to spoil her, and adore her, and let her know just how much she means to me, by the little things I do or say to make her feel special. While she treats me the same way....with love and respect! I am looking for that special someone that I can spend the rest of my life with, we'll grow old together, loving and caring for each other. Even on our worst days we will still be happy in love and can work through anything that comes our way. We will spend countless romantic days and evenings together, just enjoying every bit of the time we spend together both in person and mere thoughts, when we are not together...(*barf*)

I definitely want to find someone that is stable, serious about a relationship and secure. (He just won't stop, will he?) A woman who knows how to treat her man special. I want to find that person that I can't wait to talk to when not together. Someone I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with, and that feels the same way. I am looking for someone that is down to earth, but can also be spontaneous, someone that likes to travel, likes sports, and loves kids. If you like to dance that is a plus but not someone that is into the club scene. Hope I haven't bored you with this long email. (well Jose, that hope is dashed.)I just felt within myself that: "What's worth doing is worth doing well".. hence the stories and ads, LOL! (number 1, not funny. number 2, Jose did not do it well) I will be looking forward to your version of this note. Don't forget to mention what you want in a man. (as opposed to what you want in a kangaroo) I want a woman that can be confident enough to state what she wants in life and in a potential partner. (Then allow me to state that this email SUCKS) And I hope I have been able to express myself, without pissing you off, in telling you the type of man I am to the fullest. (again, hope dashed)

I wait to hear from you. Well, I wrote this mail and I am sending it right away without proof-reading so kindly ignore the mistakes. (read: I am a Nigerian scammer and cannot spell worth a s*it)
Oops! Now, I need a cup of coffee. (And I need a drink) Take good care of yourself and have a wonderful day!

Write when you can.. This may be too much to put in at once!! (correct!)

Hugs and Kisses, (ew)
XOXOXOXOXOXOXO (really? seriously?)
Love waits, (BIG EW + *Barf*)

-José and Kathy. (Don't blame any of this letter on your daughter. Not like she exists anyway, but if she could read she would slap you silly)

Scammer Alfred Garner is a busy boy

Within minutes of posting about Alfred Garner, we got this email from another reader who came in contact with this scammer. Thanks to them so much for sharing this information! And check out Alfies "other" photo he uses.......

Here is the email:

Alfred Garner hit me up for money yesterday and posed as someone interested in me. The IM conversation is pasted below.

Saltnpepper90@yahoo.com

Alfred Garner: sweetie can i ask a favor fof you?

Reader: Sure.

Alfred Garner: remember what i told you about work and my agents yesterday?

Reader: Yes

Alfred Garner: i want to leave Atl tomorrow or latest thursday and really need to get this over with so i don't come back but time isn;t really on my side. and if not handled i could lose the current project i am pursuing

Reader: ok....

Alfred Garner: i have called a few friends and everyone seems to be in a tight corner because of the time frame and i was wondering. is there anyway you could loan me some money for a few days? not later than next week please

Reader: are you seriously asking me this?

Alfred Garner: i am sorry and i hope i don;t get you upset but i will pay back, honestly

Reader: You obviously don't understand my financial situation so let me tell you. I am a single mother whose expenses are more than her income.

Reader: There is no way I would lend a complete stranger money

Reader: I don't have any money to lend

Reader: I'm also not going to pay for our 1st date

Alfred Garner: are you afraid that i may not pay you back?

Reader: I am stunned

Alfred Garner: and no i will take care of the date. you don't have to worry about that

Reader: No no no...this is bad

Alfred Garner: i just need to take care of this asap because it's business and my agent is not being flexible. please cal down

Alfred Garner: please

Reader: There is nothing left to talk about; I am not going out with you either

Alfred Garner: wow

Reader: I am stunned that you would ask me to lend you money

Alfred Garner: i didn't mean to send off the wrong signal. am sorry

Reader: stunned

Reader: I live paycheck to paycheck

Reader: Wrong signal?

Alfred Garner: yes i know you are upset and i don't want to appear like a needy person because i am not

Reader: I am speechless

Reader: You obviously are needy

Alfred Garner: i only need to borrow for a few days and you will have it back but i understand if you don't trust me enough

Reader: I don't trust you at all

Alfred Garner: ok

Alfred Garner: it's alright

Reader: Cancelled the reservation for Friday

Alfred Garner: why?

Reader: Do you think I would trust you in the least bit?

Alfred Garner: you don't have to. i think you need to calm down

Reader: you just raised the biggest red flag

This is EXACTLY how you should handle a money request from someone you have not yet met. Kudos and Bravo to our reader, a very smart lady!!

Alfred Garner, another Scammer

We received this email from a reader to warn others. This guy is yet another Nigerian scammer looking for money. Here is a sample of his emails and his "photo" (most likely stolen). Thanks for sending this in, and keep them coming!!

From: "Alfred Garner" <saltnpepper90@yahoo.com>
To:
Sent: Thursday, September 15, 2011 6:19:59 PM
Subject: Re: Hello

Dear X,

Hope you are feeling as happy and great as i am feeling after reading from you..,i am so glad that you shared all you did with me,it is really glaring that we are really heading in the right direction.

Who are you? A woman being a goddess? or a goddess pretending to be a woman? Whichever you are, you are doing something special to me.lol.I mean after all these years, i would have thought i might not have the possibilities again of having my dream woman, my partner, my best friend and co pilot. I'm talking about fate here - when feelings are so powerful it's as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams. I wouldn't be scared anyway, because truly, Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.The inevitable truth is , If it is meant to be, our hearts will find each other when we meet. And if our hearts melt together so will our bodies and souls. Then every word and every touch will fuel our passion flame. I will be yours, you will be mine, and we will be one.

I have over 45 labors currently working with me, both skilled and unskilled. yet all could notice a new glow on my face today. LOL. I don't really have permanent staff, i hire hands when i have project(s) and put someone in charge until each one is over. I am currently making plans to travel out of the country to buy building materials. I will fill you in as date of departure gets closer... not to worry i always take my laptop with me.

I moved to Baltimore from Atlanta which is where i still have a house of my own. I am currently renting here. Now that i have found you i am hoping a new life would start from here and I am being true to my feelings, as my old friend would say "never question if you are in love or not, because if you were you wouldn't need to ask". So the best of men would accept what they feel without questions, because truly, Love and death can't be escaped, no one can tell , when, how, or where. It is never too early or too late.LOL.

What is more important to you the love you share, the memories you have or the lover? Give love a chance to swallow you up. Don't just think it will happen in an instant, it will surprise you before you know it, but it will be the most rewarding experience you will ever have.I thank you for being so open minded and simple as me, i can promise you that the sky is the limit for us. Please let me know when you get home.

Do have a pleasant evening.

I long to read from you much much much more..

Your Prince charming

Al.

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From: "Alfred Garner" <saltnpepper90@yahoo.com>
To: XXXXXX
Sent: Wednesday, September 14, 2011 9:41:30 PM
Subject: Re: Hello

Dear XX,

It's so good to hear from you again! Why am i getting addicted to my email? lol. I get a good glow on my face just reading from you. Wonderful. How was your day?. I knew something was missing since i haven't smiled since i got home till now,lol. I was almost late for work in the morning, i woke up late, i think i am becoming restful again, Maybe i could sense something good ahead of us.
What wouldn't i do to make my dreams come true. It is like a rigger waiting for a trigger. Would you be my trigger? lol. I just need a woman to hold me before i am old. Absolutely i have come to know that we spend the most of our life seeking for the secondary needs, while our primary needs are left unseen which we can easily notice withing family and friends. We have worked so hard and attained some wealth right? but for what purpose? To be realistic, except if you just want to be known as a rich person, wealth means nothing if you have no best friend to share it with. All the millions are useless indeed. how much do we need to eat? How much do we need for shelter? how much do we need for daily fun. excess and excess leads us to vanity. But for few of us who value the simplicity, we sure would do well in finding happiness. As i always say, money can buy a good bed, but never will money buy sleep. it can buy the best diamond watch, but can never buy time, It can buy piles of books , but cant buy knowledge.. It can buy food, but not satisfaction, Money can buy sex, but can NEVER buy love. That is why , i refuse to follow the crowd, so as my own man, i would give up all that can be bought for that which cant be bought. I want true joy and happiness. I want my woman to have power over my moods,. she can make me smile in all weather.
I am glad that i could get your attention my dear. You have a special thing in your heart, and i intend to find out what it is. It could take a lifetime to figure, but i dont mind,lol. Please tell me about your ideology of life my dear.

I owe you kisses and hugs. By the way did you try the thing with the messenger yet?

I hope you had something to eat after working so hard.

Have a goodnight.

Al.

Beware of scammer Rhonda Moline

From: Rhonda Moline <ro_mo1972@yahoo.com>
To: XXXXXXXXX
Sent: Saturday, October 29, 2011 11:57 AM
Subject: Re: Hi back!

Hello XXX,

How are you doing?? I am so happy you got interest in me,I have never talked to anyone like you before,Your Picture and Profile is very nice...I just want to be loved and have someone to love back the way I've always wanted. I want to find my best friend, my soul mate, my lover and my Prince Charming and you just seem like my perfect match,but no one is perfect but we try our best to be. My intentions have always been to meet someone who is kind, caring and considerate. Someone who is not selfish and when he says he wants to be with me,he means it but that seem to be hard to find. I want to travel for pleasure while I'm able, but want someone to share not only the special moments with, but also the 'not so special' moments. Someone who'll be there for me without question, as I would be for them, always.

I'm presently in South Africa doing antiques shopping and I hope to be back to the states in two weeks time week time...I love a sense of adventure, traveling, hunting, fishing, I like to take part in interests of my partner.I love to be outside and doing things, just a walk down the road or beach would be fun or sitting and watching the sunset or sunrise or just talking with someone special. I love to watch football, music etc,I listen to all kinds of music , jazz, Classic,Country and Blues.I love kids, they are my heart .Thats how much I can say for now and will be looking forward to hear back from you later today and hopefully I'll tell you more.....I learn from my parents that communication matters a lot in a relationship and helps get to know each other more better....Tom I would love you to Get a Yahoo Messenger Download so we could talk better and have a nice Conversation,If you don't have a yahoo messenger Download you can visit the website and get one Downloaded,I would be looking for you online Do have a nice day and stay safe.

Sincerely Yours,
XXXX (this idiot actually wrote the name of the guy "she" was writing to as "her" name)

Beware of scammer Melinda

This was sent in by a reader. She admitted to trying to scam him and wanted him to send her money once a month or whatever he could afford.
Subject: Melinda From Match!!!

I'm Melinda by name and am an Antiques dealer..I'm currently in Nigeria On a business trip and i will be back in 2weeks time And am willing to relocate for that special me..I I realize that I am 34years old and that you are somewhat Older than me, if you would still like to correspond, that's fine...we'll see how things go after we get to know each other. Well, I hope that this lets you know a little about me, and I hope I don't come across as being too cynical, harsh, or resounding. I will give anybody the benefit of the doubt (we're all human, we all make mistakes), but I also don't like being taken advantage of. I'm just asking you to keep it real and be honest from the beginning; that way, nobody is wasting their time or getting their feelings hurt. I also realize that at times two people are just too different to be in a relationship together, it doesn't mean that it's anybody's fault, it's just that they're too different to be compatible. Hope this finds you in good health and that things are well with you. (and I hope I didn't scare you off) Everybody makes mistakes and I usually give people the benefit of the doubt, but if the same pattern keeps emerging, it's over. I do not want to meet someone who may think that they will take advantage of me, or lie to me and cheat on me under false pretenses.. Sorry if that sounds harsh, and I'm not accusing anybody of any wrongdoing, but I'm being upfront and honest about that, so you know where I stand from the beginning. With all due respect as well, I hope that you are upfront and honest with me, as well. I have been described as someone who love's to experiment in the kitchen, and hopefully it will turn out to be something great! I am not a gourmet cook though, but I sure do try to come up with something new, and exiting for that special evening. I do appreciate, and love, home-cooked meals, as well as a fine dinning experience. Friends have told me that I am extremely loyal, approachable, honest, and down-to-earth person. I don't take myself too seriously since life is to short. “Let’s go to a wine tasting or a jazz concert” is typically of weekends or maybe just a casual walk on the beach. Well reading is my favorite type of activity as well as listening to the music Tell me more about you.. Melinda

Letter From a Reader -- Iraq Gold Scam

Hi,   I signed up for  a membership on "Match.com".  Big Mistake!  While on this site,
I  met an American solider by the name of Brian Gair.
He was a major,  and from  Maryland, so he said. He was stationed in Iraq.
When he would email me, his  word choice and sentence usage made me believe that he
was actually from some  country in Europe.  We viewed each other on a webcam.
He told me that he loved me.  Later, he told  me that he and some of his buddies had
found some hidden gold and money.  He  needed my help to get it out of the country.
All I had to do was to contact the  special UN courier that would be delivering
the package to me.    I needed to provide my name, address, etc and a copy of the
front page of my  passport to this man, who was Arabic.  Needless to say, I did not
do this.  I  told Brian that I felt uncomfortable doing this.  I also told him that
I wanted  to date someone closer to home.   This broke my heart.  I really liked him
and I miss chatting with him.  I know I  will never meet anyone with whom I felt so
comfortable with.  But, I could not  trust him.  Did I do the right thing?  I felt
in my heart that this was a scam  or something illegal that I did not want to get
involved with. was I right?


The answer to your question is YES, you did the right thing, and YES this was a
Major scam and a total lie. Try not to miss him or dwell on this, all of your
chatting was done as an effort to get you to like him and trust him, so he could
hurt you financially. No point in missing someone who had no real feelings for you.