A reader sent us this email to warn others. If any of this sounds familiar to any of you, you are dealing with a Nigerian scammer. Here is the email:
I don't know if any of you have heard from a so-called import/exporter of German auto parts. He calls himself Mike or Michael. He first sends you a questionaire asking for you to answer about all of your likes and dislikes. Then he starts sending email - passionate love letters that he finds on a love letters website. Tonight he messaged me that he is very sad and feeling down. It seems that he spent all of his extra funds paying duty on car parts he exported to Kuala Lumpur. Now he is stuck there, poor dear, and can not pay his hotel or return airfare. And he sooo wants to come and be with me for "the Xmas". He needs only $1539. He would ask his dear mother in Manchester, but she is not well. His Yahoo messenger name is "skyman02911" He will send you a link to his company's website and claims to have an office in Washington DC. He says he lives in Seattle though. At least that's what he says to women who live in Washington State. his email is devotedniceman@gmail.com. I had a little fun with him tonight as he was leading up to asking me for money. I kept changing the subject. Finally when he gave me the dollar figure I said Let me get this straight. You have been sending me love letters that you found on a website (I found them too) and now you are asking me for money. How would you react to that in my situation?" He was so hurt that I would say such things to him! He never did that!! I sent him the the link to the website and told him that all of these other people must be stealing his letters then and passing them off as their own. He told me that he is sad and upset and doesn't need to be having unpleasant exchanges. I told him that I am so very sorry that he is sad and upset and to go to hell. His reply was "K" I hope he isn'y crying too hard into his pillow!
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Friday, November 18, 2011
Scam Victims Story - Gerald Allen
A reader recently sent us their story dealing with a Nigerian scammer going by the name of Gerald Allen:
I live in Spain and was contacted August 2009 by a man who said that he was an American/Canadian following my dating advert in germansingles He told me that he was about 51 years old, divorced with an 11 year old daughter, that he was an freelance geologist after having worked as such for many years for Halleburton. At the time of the initial contact he said that he was in London tendering for a contract in Scotland and Norway. As he didn´t get these contracts he then, so he told me, obtained a contract in Nigeria solving an oil spillage. After about 6 weeks of chatting online via Messenger he became very affectionate and declared his love for me and that he wanted to meet me. After about 2 months of having regular online contact he told me that he had left his briefcase with his passport, all his money, credit cards etc. in a taxi travelling from the site and he then asked me to help him out financially which I did. This was followed by a variety of other sob stories which ended in my sending him more money. He sounded always very convincing and although I did have doubts unfortunately I always gave him the benefit of the doubt. I sent him money to leave Nigeria and he said that he was then in London. I tried to meet him in the U.K. 3 times whilst over there but each time something happened as to why he could not meet me. He continued chatting to me for over one year more via messenger. During that time I did not send him more money although from time to time I received more sob stories. Just recently I asked him to come to Spain and e-mailed a Ryanair boarding pass to him. (I had a copy of his "American passport" which was a fake). Needless to say he did not turn up. He told me that at the Ryanair Visa check desk he had been asked for a malaria vaccination certificate (He said that he contracted malaria whilst in Nigeria) which he said cost Pound Sterling 360.--. I checked this out with Ryanair and received confirmation from them in writing that this was not required. I challenged him on this and he eventually admitted that he was actually a Nigerian/South African with a mixed colour Nigerian father and a white South African mother. He asked my forgiveness and told me that he was ashamed of what he had done to me. All in all he conned me out of Euros 20,000.- which he said that he would repay bit by bit. He said that he had not spent all this money but invested it in shares. He also begged me not to report him to the police. He wanted to turn over a new leaf and make something of himself. I don´t believe that this is true and that he will continue conning women out of money. His e-mail address is geraldall@hotmail.com and geraldald@yahoo.com
geraldallen@yahoo.com
his mobile phone no. is 00447035906915 (previously 004470457029 and whilst in Nigeria 2347030884045)
his "Canadian mother´s" phone no. 17802375213 and her e-mail address maryavilla@hotmail.com and his "daughter´s Kimberley" kimberlygrd@hotmail.com
I checked his "mother´s and daughter´s" e-mail out by sending a greeting card via 123greetings which were returned.
Since then he has admitted that he does not have any children and is single.
He told me that his present address in London is 23 Bethel Drive, Newham, London E138BN.
He admitted that the initial 2 photos he sent me were somebody else but the subsequent ones were him (the last 2 were not that different from the initial ones but his "American passport" photo was quite different. (I had asked him for a copy of his passport before sending him more money about 1 year ago getting him out of Nigeria by making up a bit of a story).
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
They Will Still Con You ~ Even After you Meet Them in Person!
I had been single for a while after separating from my husband, and decided to try internet dating. After a short while I met a man Prav, and we got on very well from the start. We found that we shared the same star sign and our birthday's were only three days apart. I felt that we definitely clicked, and we chatted endlessly on IM and text messages. I waited every morning for his lovely texts to come through.
After just over a week, I decided to pay the £45 rail fare to go to London to meet him. We were both so excited and were counting the days until the weekend. We met at Waterloo station, and the instant I met him I felt that something wasn't quite right - he was shifty and a bit uneasy with me. I put this down to first date nerves, but as the day went on I became unhappy with the fact that he was so unattentive towards me, considering he had been so desperate to meet me.
During the conversation, facts began to come out that I had not been aware of before, there was an 'ex' girlfriend who, although she had supposedly moved out of his house, had still left most of her belongings behind. There was also the fact that his youngest daughter who had been living with her mother before he met me, was suddenly moving in with him full time. This I was particularly uncomfortable with, as having no children of my own, I did not want to live with anyone who had children full time.
Then he suddenly kept mentioning this business he was going into. He was buying the franchise of a well known coffee shop and told me that he was taking out a loan against one of the two properties that he owned. He then said that he was hoping he wouldn't have a problem getting his ex girlfriend to sign over her half of this property as he would need her to do this in order to put this up as collateral for the loan. I began to feel quite upset that he did not seem interested in talking about our relationship, only this business and the loan. He showed me all the architects plans and the business plan he had drawn up for the bank. I tried again and again to turn the conversation to us, but it seemed he did not want to know.
During the day, he asked me several times if I would consider moving to London should things work out, and I told him that we would have to get to know each other better, it was impossible to make a decision after only knowing him a couple of weeks. He seemed unhappy with this and by the end of the afternoon seemed not to be able to get rid of me quick enough.
On the train home, I was so disappointed. I just felt that there was something strange about this that I couldn't put my finger on. Well, a couple of days later I found out what it was. On Monday and Tuesday I was surprised because he was suddenly totally unavailable on Skype, and on Wednesday morning the text I had been dreading came through. He said that he could not get his 'ex' to sign over her half of the second property and he wanted me to take out a loan in my name for £10,000 secured against half his house.
I was stunned. He texted me and called me constantly begging for help, saying that the deadline for the franchise was Friday. It appeared that the only person who could help him get this franchise was me and if I really loved him I would trust him and take out the loan. It was emotional blackmail and I was devastated. I told him there was no way I could do this after such a short time of knowing him - the whole thing to me was ridiculous, but I knew that my relationship with him was over. He was just a con man.
Looking back, I don't think the 'ex' girlfriend was 'ex'. Her stuff was all over his house, and I couldn't see how she would move out and leave all her personal possessions behind. I have a feeling that they were both in this together and she had just arranged to be out for the day when I went round. The minute he knew he wasn't getting the money he dropped me like a stone. He didn't answer my texts, phonecalls or appear on Skype again. I felt so used and I am telling my story in the hope that it might stop this heartbreak happening to someone else. Be aware, and remember that even if you get to meet someone in person, it dosen't necessarily mean that they won't try to con you.
After just over a week, I decided to pay the £45 rail fare to go to London to meet him. We were both so excited and were counting the days until the weekend. We met at Waterloo station, and the instant I met him I felt that something wasn't quite right - he was shifty and a bit uneasy with me. I put this down to first date nerves, but as the day went on I became unhappy with the fact that he was so unattentive towards me, considering he had been so desperate to meet me.
During the conversation, facts began to come out that I had not been aware of before, there was an 'ex' girlfriend who, although she had supposedly moved out of his house, had still left most of her belongings behind. There was also the fact that his youngest daughter who had been living with her mother before he met me, was suddenly moving in with him full time. This I was particularly uncomfortable with, as having no children of my own, I did not want to live with anyone who had children full time.
Then he suddenly kept mentioning this business he was going into. He was buying the franchise of a well known coffee shop and told me that he was taking out a loan against one of the two properties that he owned. He then said that he was hoping he wouldn't have a problem getting his ex girlfriend to sign over her half of this property as he would need her to do this in order to put this up as collateral for the loan. I began to feel quite upset that he did not seem interested in talking about our relationship, only this business and the loan. He showed me all the architects plans and the business plan he had drawn up for the bank. I tried again and again to turn the conversation to us, but it seemed he did not want to know.
During the day, he asked me several times if I would consider moving to London should things work out, and I told him that we would have to get to know each other better, it was impossible to make a decision after only knowing him a couple of weeks. He seemed unhappy with this and by the end of the afternoon seemed not to be able to get rid of me quick enough.
On the train home, I was so disappointed. I just felt that there was something strange about this that I couldn't put my finger on. Well, a couple of days later I found out what it was. On Monday and Tuesday I was surprised because he was suddenly totally unavailable on Skype, and on Wednesday morning the text I had been dreading came through. He said that he could not get his 'ex' to sign over her half of the second property and he wanted me to take out a loan in my name for £10,000 secured against half his house.
I was stunned. He texted me and called me constantly begging for help, saying that the deadline for the franchise was Friday. It appeared that the only person who could help him get this franchise was me and if I really loved him I would trust him and take out the loan. It was emotional blackmail and I was devastated. I told him there was no way I could do this after such a short time of knowing him - the whole thing to me was ridiculous, but I knew that my relationship with him was over. He was just a con man.
Looking back, I don't think the 'ex' girlfriend was 'ex'. Her stuff was all over his house, and I couldn't see how she would move out and leave all her personal possessions behind. I have a feeling that they were both in this together and she had just arranged to be out for the day when I went round. The minute he knew he wasn't getting the money he dropped me like a stone. He didn't answer my texts, phonecalls or appear on Skype again. I felt so used and I am telling my story in the hope that it might stop this heartbreak happening to someone else. Be aware, and remember that even if you get to meet someone in person, it dosen't necessarily mean that they won't try to con you.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Tagged.com Scammer Mike Bill Forgets Which Sex He Is
A woman just sent us the 2 letters she received from a "man" on tagged.com. Read both letters and you will see in one "Mike Bill" writes that he is female, the other, male. In one he works in hotel/rest. management, the other, a certified chef. Watch out for Mike Bill with the email address : mike.bill001@yahoo.com because they are a scammer. This is also shows how many male Nigerian Scammers post as both men and women.
From: Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com>Subject: TO THE ANGEL OF MY LIFETo: XXXXDate: Sunday, October 4, 2009, 3:12 PM
Hello
Am from Los Angelos, but right now in Lagos Nigeria. I am single i have been married before with 1 kids, am an Italian - grew up in Troy NY - Went to catholic schools to the age of 13-Troy High school. Went to local 2 year college HVCC. Transferred to Plattsburgh were I graduated with a degree in Hotel Rest. Management. I am a very laid back and fun loving gentle man. I have many varied interests, and can hold a conversation on many different subjects. I try to be as honest as possible, can find humor in almost any situation.Love being outdoors also either by the river or the lake.I was raised with a strike Christian background and taught from a young age to always respect myself and other people. I have decided to specifically state where I stand about religious faiths. The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. I'm not into a bunch of the different doctrines that are out there. I am a Christian. I live my life as a Christian. I would love to raise children in a Christian atmosphere. Just as I stated earlier, Jesus is the head of my life. He is my Lord and Savior, and I can't thank him enough for all he has done for me. He has blessed me so much that I would never want to disappoint him, because you never know, the blessing it may cost, is our love. The Bible says (KJV) Matthew 6:33, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteous; and all these things shall be added unto you." and that includes MEMost of all, I am a Christian and I strive to live according to how GOD wants us to live. His word says "Extra-marital sex is Fornication." That is an abomination of God. So, having said that....when we meet, I'm not having sex with you! I am saving myself until the next time I get married. Don't take me lightly on that, because you will find out the hard way, I mean what I say.I am a sassy, smart, strong-willed female. I enjoy doing just about anything outside. I jog/ride bikes on a regular basis. I grew up in the state, so I am not afraid to try just about anything. I am not afraid to get dirty, love riding four-wheelers. I am quite adventersome and enjoy learning new things. I am an animal lover, in my life I have had many different animals as pets, from Raccoon to horses. I currently have a cat. One of my quirks/traits is that I can coax up almost any animal. Most animals are drawn too me. And its hard for me to resist wanting to keep them.I would say that my biggest fault is that I have no use for lazy people. I am not looking for a coach potato or a person who does not work. Occupation really doesn't matter to me as long as you work hard. I am seeking an active, quick witted, strong minded, woman who is not afraid to be a woman. I like somewhat cocky, self-assured women who are active.I'm a quiet, kind, loyal. A great meaning for me is a human's soul. Circle of my interests is various. I like the literature, music, and cinema. personality traits are; calm, honest, kind, loyal, flexible, elegant, sociable, sensitive, gentle, cheerful, optimistic, romanticAm very understanding,open minded with a heart of forgiving, loving and caring with sense of humor, hard working with cheerful character,honest,sincere,kind, warm and intelligent with good lookI am an energetic and sociable person. I appreciate decency and sincerity in a relationship between a woman and a man. The inner beauty is more important for me than the beauty of appearancehave fully decided to be a role Model to my children when i have them and a good, loving and caring husband to my wife.But I doesn’t want to mess myself with the wrong woman.I am a man who possess these qualities: loving, faithful, ki nd, compassionate, honesty, trustworthy, caring, sincere, loyal, friend, morals, easy to talk to, and passionate I have no problem in communicate about feelings, needs, wants, hopes, dreams, problems, solutions, and other things that can make a relationship work. I know communication is part of a healthy relationship. Without it relationship is doom for failure. I have no problem listen to someone I love.My perception of an ideal , I would like to see near me clever, intelligent, and reliable man. Which would require my emotional heat, capable to like and respect the woman. I have to let you know aswell, that am an honest person as i have said, and i have to be honest with that, i don't have any boyfriend at present now and am not in any serious relationship. am a great giver because I so much believes in the Multiplied returns and that's why I doesn’t lack anything. I never speak negatively about people, I take less and listen more to people and does not jump into other people's affairs. I wish to open a new world in the world of your soul. And if I understand you are the Only whom I am seeking, i share with you all your sorrows and joys, Ii will be your best friend and life partner I like to travel very much. It is very interesting to get more knowledge about the new countries, new people and traditions. It's great to have such a possibility.
--- On Sun, 9/27/09, Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com>Subject: HELLO TO THE ANGEL OF MY LIFETo: XXX>Date: Sunday, September 27, 2009, 9:54 AM
Dear Love,My Dearest XXX, I met you some weels ago on the Internet, and since that time, I have grown to love you so deeply. I have heard it said that online romances don't last, but I disagree. I know that what we are doing may be considered wrong by some, but I also know what I feel in my heart, and I know that it's real.I lay awake at night, sometimes, and I cry 'cause I miss you so much. I know that we can't change the past, and I know that we can't predict the future, but my heart does not lie ... I am so in love with you.When you kiss me so tenderly, my heart skips a beat. When I look into your beautiful eyes, I can see how much you love me. When we make love so sweetly and passionately, I can feel the emotion just by holding you closely... we may not be together now in person , but our love still goes on, and I just want you to know that you are precious to me and no matter how this story turns out, I will always love you, now and forever.
I am looking for someone who wants a relationship based on being equal partners.Some one who believes that communication is what helps a relationship endure.I am looking for a woman that is as tired of playing games as I am. The past several relationships that I have been in move along fine to a certain point. It seems like once you near that serious commitment stage that people tend to turn tail and run. This is what has happened to me. People say they want a serious committed relationship but when you get to that point, they bail out. The woman I am looking for should know what she wants and be very good in communicating. she should be good at expressing her opinions and feelings to her mate as well as be good at listening. Communication is very important in a relationship. Also, she should be able to put her relationship first as it should be the one of the most important things in her life.I am a certified chef so I love to cook. Myself cooking a nice dinner with candle light, a little wine, and some soft music would be a great evening to me. It would give us time to share and talk and get to know each other.I am an old fashioned romantic and tend to be a touchy feely kind of man. I enjoy quiet times with that special someone, holding hands, hugging, cuddling up to each other. I also think that the sexual part of a relationship is very important and you must be on the same wave here also. I know and believe that this part of the relationship comes in time and is not rushed into, but thought I should mention that I am both a touch feely and sexual person, and that these parts of a relationship are important to me.I am Looking for a woman that need Love and a woman that is Ready to be Loved..a woman that will be loving and caring..a woman that is responsible and a woman that is hardworking..a woman that has love in abundance and is Ready to give it out..a woman that needs care and support in Life..A woman that will be there for me In The Good and Bad time of my life..a woman that we will live together and Bear children and a woman that will Love our Kids and take Good care of them and a woman that we will like happily.I'm not looking for a woman from this or that part of the world, I'm looking for a special woman to come into my life, someone I could give my life and care to… Maybe I simply wasn't lucky to find the right person here , but honestly speaking, woman in our country are just another story: generally they are not family-oriented, they don't know how to treat men right, many drink alot, they don't know how to support the family and just "enjoy" the chance to put all the responsibility on men’s shoulders… I don't want to say that all of them are the same, but the main tendency is just like this…I think life can be full only when there is someone to share it with, and I'm looking for a woman who will understand me, care of me, who will trust me and whom I will trust, who will treat me as a Loving man, as a man, and if she does this - I will do anything to make her happy, I will always be by her side, I will share all good and bad times with her no matter what happens in life…
I'm looking for a loving, caring, fair woman to give her everything I have, all the life I possess, all the feelings I have inside… I'm very understanding, loving and affectionate person, and I'm seeking for the same qualities in my future mate, I want her to be family-oriented, with traditional values and serious attitude towards life, marriage and general relationship between a man and a woman. If she was in the company of other man I trust she will be faithful and I'll be the one to please her in any way, not some other man, in public or in private. I'll satisfy her every need.I know about the stories of the girls making so-called "Marriage for convenience", marrying foreign women just to get citizenship. It seems to me that every country, every nation has good or bad people - on our TV screen they often show programs about foreign women who marry Ukrainian boys and then force them to work as gay. Is this true? Or it’s not? The only thing I'm sure of - there could be some bad guys marrying women "for convenience" and there could be some foreign woman earning money on their spouses, just as there could be woman from Thailand, China and woman from Canada or Germany, and it seems to me its not fair to make any generalization about it…I would never consider myself as looking desperately for any woman to get married with and to leave my country, of course its not a secret that Ukraine is having financial, economical problems, the level of life is not high here comparing to other countries, but the materialistic side of life will never be a priority for me, I do need to love a person and to feel his love with me, what will be the one and only reason for marriage. I think it is a natural desire for a woman to be always with her man, to feel his presence, his love…So, what do I want in life… I simply want to be happy, I want to love my Woman and to be loved by her, I want to live all my life together with her, life full of mutual care and support, devotion and faithfulness, understanding and trust, to be there for her no matter what life's darkness casts upon her…
From: Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com>Subject: TO THE ANGEL OF MY LIFETo: XXXXDate: Sunday, October 4, 2009, 3:12 PM
Hello
Am from Los Angelos, but right now in Lagos Nigeria. I am single i have been married before with 1 kids, am an Italian - grew up in Troy NY - Went to catholic schools to the age of 13-Troy High school. Went to local 2 year college HVCC. Transferred to Plattsburgh were I graduated with a degree in Hotel Rest. Management. I am a very laid back and fun loving gentle man. I have many varied interests, and can hold a conversation on many different subjects. I try to be as honest as possible, can find humor in almost any situation.Love being outdoors also either by the river or the lake.I was raised with a strike Christian background and taught from a young age to always respect myself and other people. I have decided to specifically state where I stand about religious faiths. The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. I'm not into a bunch of the different doctrines that are out there. I am a Christian. I live my life as a Christian. I would love to raise children in a Christian atmosphere. Just as I stated earlier, Jesus is the head of my life. He is my Lord and Savior, and I can't thank him enough for all he has done for me. He has blessed me so much that I would never want to disappoint him, because you never know, the blessing it may cost, is our love. The Bible says (KJV) Matthew 6:33, But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteous; and all these things shall be added unto you." and that includes MEMost of all, I am a Christian and I strive to live according to how GOD wants us to live. His word says "Extra-marital sex is Fornication." That is an abomination of God. So, having said that....when we meet, I'm not having sex with you! I am saving myself until the next time I get married. Don't take me lightly on that, because you will find out the hard way, I mean what I say.I am a sassy, smart, strong-willed female. I enjoy doing just about anything outside. I jog/ride bikes on a regular basis. I grew up in the state, so I am not afraid to try just about anything. I am not afraid to get dirty, love riding four-wheelers. I am quite adventersome and enjoy learning new things. I am an animal lover, in my life I have had many different animals as pets, from Raccoon to horses. I currently have a cat. One of my quirks/traits is that I can coax up almost any animal. Most animals are drawn too me. And its hard for me to resist wanting to keep them.I would say that my biggest fault is that I have no use for lazy people. I am not looking for a coach potato or a person who does not work. Occupation really doesn't matter to me as long as you work hard. I am seeking an active, quick witted, strong minded, woman who is not afraid to be a woman. I like somewhat cocky, self-assured women who are active.I'm a quiet, kind, loyal. A great meaning for me is a human's soul. Circle of my interests is various. I like the literature, music, and cinema. personality traits are; calm, honest, kind, loyal, flexible, elegant, sociable, sensitive, gentle, cheerful, optimistic, romanticAm very understanding,open minded with a heart of forgiving, loving and caring with sense of humor, hard working with cheerful character,honest,sincere,kind, warm and intelligent with good lookI am an energetic and sociable person. I appreciate decency and sincerity in a relationship between a woman and a man. The inner beauty is more important for me than the beauty of appearancehave fully decided to be a role Model to my children when i have them and a good, loving and caring husband to my wife.But I doesn’t want to mess myself with the wrong woman.I am a man who possess these qualities: loving, faithful, ki nd, compassionate, honesty, trustworthy, caring, sincere, loyal, friend, morals, easy to talk to, and passionate I have no problem in communicate about feelings, needs, wants, hopes, dreams, problems, solutions, and other things that can make a relationship work. I know communication is part of a healthy relationship. Without it relationship is doom for failure. I have no problem listen to someone I love.My perception of an ideal , I would like to see near me clever, intelligent, and reliable man. Which would require my emotional heat, capable to like and respect the woman. I have to let you know aswell, that am an honest person as i have said, and i have to be honest with that, i don't have any boyfriend at present now and am not in any serious relationship. am a great giver because I so much believes in the Multiplied returns and that's why I doesn’t lack anything. I never speak negatively about people, I take less and listen more to people and does not jump into other people's affairs. I wish to open a new world in the world of your soul. And if I understand you are the Only whom I am seeking, i share with you all your sorrows and joys, Ii will be your best friend and life partner I like to travel very much. It is very interesting to get more knowledge about the new countries, new people and traditions. It's great to have such a possibility.
--- On Sun, 9/27/09, Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Mike Bill <mike.bill0001@yahoo.com>Subject: HELLO TO THE ANGEL OF MY LIFETo: XXX>Date: Sunday, September 27, 2009, 9:54 AM
Dear Love,My Dearest XXX, I met you some weels ago on the Internet, and since that time, I have grown to love you so deeply. I have heard it said that online romances don't last, but I disagree. I know that what we are doing may be considered wrong by some, but I also know what I feel in my heart, and I know that it's real.I lay awake at night, sometimes, and I cry 'cause I miss you so much. I know that we can't change the past, and I know that we can't predict the future, but my heart does not lie ... I am so in love with you.When you kiss me so tenderly, my heart skips a beat. When I look into your beautiful eyes, I can see how much you love me. When we make love so sweetly and passionately, I can feel the emotion just by holding you closely... we may not be together now in person , but our love still goes on, and I just want you to know that you are precious to me and no matter how this story turns out, I will always love you, now and forever.
I am looking for someone who wants a relationship based on being equal partners.Some one who believes that communication is what helps a relationship endure.I am looking for a woman that is as tired of playing games as I am. The past several relationships that I have been in move along fine to a certain point. It seems like once you near that serious commitment stage that people tend to turn tail and run. This is what has happened to me. People say they want a serious committed relationship but when you get to that point, they bail out. The woman I am looking for should know what she wants and be very good in communicating. she should be good at expressing her opinions and feelings to her mate as well as be good at listening. Communication is very important in a relationship. Also, she should be able to put her relationship first as it should be the one of the most important things in her life.I am a certified chef so I love to cook. Myself cooking a nice dinner with candle light, a little wine, and some soft music would be a great evening to me. It would give us time to share and talk and get to know each other.I am an old fashioned romantic and tend to be a touchy feely kind of man. I enjoy quiet times with that special someone, holding hands, hugging, cuddling up to each other. I also think that the sexual part of a relationship is very important and you must be on the same wave here also. I know and believe that this part of the relationship comes in time and is not rushed into, but thought I should mention that I am both a touch feely and sexual person, and that these parts of a relationship are important to me.I am Looking for a woman that need Love and a woman that is Ready to be Loved..a woman that will be loving and caring..a woman that is responsible and a woman that is hardworking..a woman that has love in abundance and is Ready to give it out..a woman that needs care and support in Life..A woman that will be there for me In The Good and Bad time of my life..a woman that we will live together and Bear children and a woman that will Love our Kids and take Good care of them and a woman that we will like happily.I'm not looking for a woman from this or that part of the world, I'm looking for a special woman to come into my life, someone I could give my life and care to… Maybe I simply wasn't lucky to find the right person here , but honestly speaking, woman in our country are just another story: generally they are not family-oriented, they don't know how to treat men right, many drink alot, they don't know how to support the family and just "enjoy" the chance to put all the responsibility on men’s shoulders… I don't want to say that all of them are the same, but the main tendency is just like this…I think life can be full only when there is someone to share it with, and I'm looking for a woman who will understand me, care of me, who will trust me and whom I will trust, who will treat me as a Loving man, as a man, and if she does this - I will do anything to make her happy, I will always be by her side, I will share all good and bad times with her no matter what happens in life…
I'm looking for a loving, caring, fair woman to give her everything I have, all the life I possess, all the feelings I have inside… I'm very understanding, loving and affectionate person, and I'm seeking for the same qualities in my future mate, I want her to be family-oriented, with traditional values and serious attitude towards life, marriage and general relationship between a man and a woman. If she was in the company of other man I trust she will be faithful and I'll be the one to please her in any way, not some other man, in public or in private. I'll satisfy her every need.I know about the stories of the girls making so-called "Marriage for convenience", marrying foreign women just to get citizenship. It seems to me that every country, every nation has good or bad people - on our TV screen they often show programs about foreign women who marry Ukrainian boys and then force them to work as gay. Is this true? Or it’s not? The only thing I'm sure of - there could be some bad guys marrying women "for convenience" and there could be some foreign woman earning money on their spouses, just as there could be woman from Thailand, China and woman from Canada or Germany, and it seems to me its not fair to make any generalization about it…I would never consider myself as looking desperately for any woman to get married with and to leave my country, of course its not a secret that Ukraine is having financial, economical problems, the level of life is not high here comparing to other countries, but the materialistic side of life will never be a priority for me, I do need to love a person and to feel his love with me, what will be the one and only reason for marriage. I think it is a natural desire for a woman to be always with her man, to feel his presence, his love…So, what do I want in life… I simply want to be happy, I want to love my Woman and to be loved by her, I want to live all my life together with her, life full of mutual care and support, devotion and faithfulness, understanding and trust, to be there for her no matter what life's darkness casts upon her…
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Friday, August 7, 2009
Internet Dating Gone Wrong Story #5
I Had been writing with "Jeff" whom I met in a gameroom chatroom. We had started just exchanging jokes back and forth and then started writing on a more personal level. He asked a lot of questions, seemed very interested in getting to know me, and I felt flattered. He seemed to really listen to me, and was always quick to write back, which made me feel as though I was important to him. He told me he had tried blind dates and joining groups to meet someone special but had had no luck. He remarked about how suprised he was to have met someone like me in an internet chatroom! Once again, I felt very flattered. He said his computer was going in for servicing and that he may not be able to email me for a while, and I instantly, without thinking, sent him an email with my phone number.
We began to chat on the phone almost daily, and by the second week he told me he was developing some feelings for me, and had to tell me because he wanted to "be honest and up-front about everything, because that was the kind of guy he is". After another week we agreed to meet for dinner. We met at a restaurant at the halfway point between the two of us. He showed up at the place 45 minutes late, looking a bit disheveled, and told me he had come straight from the gym. We ordered dinner, had nice conversation, and it seemed we were both enjoying ourselves. When the bill came I offered to pay my share and he said "No, it was on him". He then went for his pants pockets and realized his wallet was not there, and told me he must have left it in his gym bag in the car. He said he would be right back and went out to get it. After about 15 minutes I started getting nervous thinking he was out there rummaging around trying to find it but having no luck so I told the waiter I was going to look for my date. In the parking lot he was NO WHERE TO BE FOUND.
He left me with the bill, and never returned my messages either through email or phone and I never heard from him again! I decided to try tricking him, and set up a new account and went to the gaming website under a new name to see if he would engage me, and lo and behold he chatted with me for a while, and asked for my email address, and started sending me jokes! I realized that this man was trolling this websites chatroom to pick up women, so I went into EVERY chatroom for a few months and chatted with as many females as I could and warned them of the game he played with me so he could not do this to another woman!
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We began to chat on the phone almost daily, and by the second week he told me he was developing some feelings for me, and had to tell me because he wanted to "be honest and up-front about everything, because that was the kind of guy he is". After another week we agreed to meet for dinner. We met at a restaurant at the halfway point between the two of us. He showed up at the place 45 minutes late, looking a bit disheveled, and told me he had come straight from the gym. We ordered dinner, had nice conversation, and it seemed we were both enjoying ourselves. When the bill came I offered to pay my share and he said "No, it was on him". He then went for his pants pockets and realized his wallet was not there, and told me he must have left it in his gym bag in the car. He said he would be right back and went out to get it. After about 15 minutes I started getting nervous thinking he was out there rummaging around trying to find it but having no luck so I told the waiter I was going to look for my date. In the parking lot he was NO WHERE TO BE FOUND.
He left me with the bill, and never returned my messages either through email or phone and I never heard from him again! I decided to try tricking him, and set up a new account and went to the gaming website under a new name to see if he would engage me, and lo and behold he chatted with me for a while, and asked for my email address, and started sending me jokes! I realized that this man was trolling this websites chatroom to pick up women, so I went into EVERY chatroom for a few months and chatted with as many females as I could and warned them of the game he played with me so he could not do this to another woman!
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Internet Dating Gone Wrong Story #4
My internet dating experience was one I will never forget, and has opened my eyes to how anyone can get conned. I was browsing through the internet dating sites, and came across a few men that interested me. I was sending emails back and forth to several of them, taking my time to get to know them, and one by one they all fell to the wayside. One was really "all about sex", one lived too far away, and another just dropped off the face of the earth. All except for Stu*.
Stu told me all about himself, how he was divorced and was looking for someone to be a real partner to him. He sent emails regularly, we had many phone chats, and he made arrangements to meet me in a diner close to my home. We met, hit it off, and the romance blossomed. He told me he never felt like this with anyone before, he felt he had finally found someone he thought he could spend the rest of his life with, and I was on cloud 9!
One day I opened my email and my mouth hit the floor, it was from his email address, but it wasn't from HIM. His wife, who was suspicious, decided to do a little "research" on her own to see what her husband was up to and came up with not only MY emails but emails from 4, yes FOUR, other women!!! I asked to speak to her personally, and she agreed. She realized I had no idea he was married, so although she was mad at him she wasn't mad at me. She sent me the emails he sent the other women, and all of us got together through email and by phone and were shocked that this man had conned us all, and did such a good job! His wife left him and divorced him, I never spoke to him again, but have seen his profile still on the major dating sites, so be warned, he is out there!!
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Stu told me all about himself, how he was divorced and was looking for someone to be a real partner to him. He sent emails regularly, we had many phone chats, and he made arrangements to meet me in a diner close to my home. We met, hit it off, and the romance blossomed. He told me he never felt like this with anyone before, he felt he had finally found someone he thought he could spend the rest of his life with, and I was on cloud 9!
One day I opened my email and my mouth hit the floor, it was from his email address, but it wasn't from HIM. His wife, who was suspicious, decided to do a little "research" on her own to see what her husband was up to and came up with not only MY emails but emails from 4, yes FOUR, other women!!! I asked to speak to her personally, and she agreed. She realized I had no idea he was married, so although she was mad at him she wasn't mad at me. She sent me the emails he sent the other women, and all of us got together through email and by phone and were shocked that this man had conned us all, and did such a good job! His wife left him and divorced him, I never spoke to him again, but have seen his profile still on the major dating sites, so be warned, he is out there!!
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Internet Dating Gone Wrong Story #3
This was the biggest nightmare for me. I met someone through a personal ad they placed on the internet. He said he lived about 20 min away from me, but right now he was on business at another location far away and would be back when the project was completed. We im'd each other everyday, emailed several times a week, and his sense of humor was great, he really seemed mature, just unlucky in love and that's why he hadn't found the right girl yet. We spoke briefly by phone, but since he was out of the country it would have been way too expensive, so we kept it mostly online. Four months had passed, he still wasn't home because the project wasn't completed (he expressed his frustration) and I was dying to meet him. He sent me romantic letters, wanted to read the poetry I wrote, and seemed really excited about meeting me too! One day I sent him an email and it came back as "blocked". I almost died! I couldn't think of anything I did wrong, and was totally flipping out! Why would he block my emails all of a sudden? I went through some of the other emails in my inbox and opened one from an email address I didn't recognize, and it was from his PARENTS-seems he was 17, they were livid, and I was told to stay way from him from now on!
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Internet Dating Gone Wrong Story
This letter was written by a woman who had, what I later learned through others, a horrific, yet not unique experience.....................
I was writing to this guy *Dale* (not his real name) through an internet dating site. I liked his profile, and we seemed to have a lot in common, including the fact that we were both so sick of the games, had both been divorced, and had children. We corresponded endlessly through IM, letters and then on to phone calls after two months of keeping it on the computer. I thought I was being really safe and that we had built up an element of trust between each other.
We finally decided to meet at a public restaurant, and we both drove separately, and I was really hoping this would turn out all right. We felt instantly at ease, talked smoothly all through dinner, and had a really great time. He walked me to my car and we agreed to meet again. We had several dates, and I had to go back to my home town to visit my Mom who was having a birthday party for my Dad, and I would be away for four days, and we agreed we would get together again as soon as I arrived home. I returned home and called him, left a few messages, and didn't hear from him for two days. I left him an email, and still...........nothing.
On the fifth day I was on IM and I saw him and sent him "Where have you been? What's up" and what I got was a reply "Is this *Judy* ? This isn't Dale, this is his daughter, Maggie." I said "hello Maggie, your Dad told me a lot about you, is he around?" To which she told me he had been at the mall over the weekend (it was the holiday season) and was trying to break up a fight in the parking lot and was stabbed!! I was so upset, and asked if he was ok! She told me she got the call from the hospital, went to see him and he told her to tell me he thought I was a great person, he really felt he finally met a special lady, and that we had our whole lives left to be together, and that we see each other soon.
Then she told me he didn't last through the night, his heart gave out due to loss of blood and he died. I was beside myself and hysterical. I was inconsolable. My friends felt sooo bad for me, but what I did not know was MY daughter had a sinking feeling, so she called his cell phone (from HER cell phone) and left a message saying "Hi Dale, it's Victoria, give me a call back, I am really looking forward to to speaking with you. When she told me she did that I was like "Why?" And she said, I wasn't going to tell you BUT (and she made me put my ear up to her voice mail) listen to this................and I heard "Hi Victoria, its Dale, I am returning your phone call, and can't wait to talk to you either!" I never called him again, and although I don't wish death on anybody, what this bastard did was sick and cruel and inhumane.
I was writing to this guy *Dale* (not his real name) through an internet dating site. I liked his profile, and we seemed to have a lot in common, including the fact that we were both so sick of the games, had both been divorced, and had children. We corresponded endlessly through IM, letters and then on to phone calls after two months of keeping it on the computer. I thought I was being really safe and that we had built up an element of trust between each other.
We finally decided to meet at a public restaurant, and we both drove separately, and I was really hoping this would turn out all right. We felt instantly at ease, talked smoothly all through dinner, and had a really great time. He walked me to my car and we agreed to meet again. We had several dates, and I had to go back to my home town to visit my Mom who was having a birthday party for my Dad, and I would be away for four days, and we agreed we would get together again as soon as I arrived home. I returned home and called him, left a few messages, and didn't hear from him for two days. I left him an email, and still...........nothing.
On the fifth day I was on IM and I saw him and sent him "Where have you been? What's up" and what I got was a reply "Is this *Judy* ? This isn't Dale, this is his daughter, Maggie." I said "hello Maggie, your Dad told me a lot about you, is he around?" To which she told me he had been at the mall over the weekend (it was the holiday season) and was trying to break up a fight in the parking lot and was stabbed!! I was so upset, and asked if he was ok! She told me she got the call from the hospital, went to see him and he told her to tell me he thought I was a great person, he really felt he finally met a special lady, and that we had our whole lives left to be together, and that we see each other soon.
Then she told me he didn't last through the night, his heart gave out due to loss of blood and he died. I was beside myself and hysterical. I was inconsolable. My friends felt sooo bad for me, but what I did not know was MY daughter had a sinking feeling, so she called his cell phone (from HER cell phone) and left a message saying "Hi Dale, it's Victoria, give me a call back, I am really looking forward to to speaking with you. When she told me she did that I was like "Why?" And she said, I wasn't going to tell you BUT (and she made me put my ear up to her voice mail) listen to this................and I heard "Hi Victoria, its Dale, I am returning your phone call, and can't wait to talk to you either!" I never called him again, and although I don't wish death on anybody, what this bastard did was sick and cruel and inhumane.
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