When in Doubt... Check them Out!

Dating is a risky business. You are letting yourself become vulnerable and giving your heart away to someone else. Are they worth the risk? Is there a way to minimize that risk? Are you having any doubts or nagging suspicions? Is your intuition nudging you and telling you to be careful, something may not be right?

When in doubt, check them out!

There are many sites, that for a small fee, will help you check them out and make sure their stories are true.Are they telling you they are single? Divorced? Have no criminal background? Why not make sure before you give your heart away? If you are going to invest time, energy and your feelings into someone why not make sure that someone is telling you the truth? of course we don't want to think they would lie. Of course we don't want to think we don't trust them enough and had them checked out. We may be afraid that if they find out, they will leave us.

Stop worrying about what they make think of you. If you were going to invest in a home, car, or anything else you would do your research. You would make sure you were not getting scammed or lied to. Do the same with your budding relationship before you jump in with both feet.

Internet dating has it's own challenges. People can claim anything and it may be hard for you to uncover the truth and you have to take them at their word. Sure, they say nice things and you feel a connection between you, but shouldn't you make sure they are who they say they are? Some internet romances may involve requests for money. How can you consider sending someone money but wont spend a small fee to find out if they are who they say they are? Look them up.

If there is no "joe blow" living in (insert town he said he lived in) that has no child named (insert name) you will have to face the reality that they are lying to you. If they said they are single but are showing up as married and NOT divorced, same thing. Don't you owe it to yourself to find out the truth? You owe more to yourself than this new person who entered your life. Play it smart, and lessen the risk of getting played.

Barry Wales Again - Asking for MONEY for his Daughter Who needs surgery - of course

Barry Wales with his Daughter --- yeah right


READER: why did u buzz me
READER: if you arent going to talk
barrywales01: Sweetie am here
READER: me too
barrywales01: So what's up?
READER: as innnnnn....??
barrywales01: In helping me baby.
barrywales01: Just in case you change your mind baby and want too here is the info and you also have my cell.
READER: I admire your tenacity for working me and not giving up
READER: what info
barrywales01: The Dr's info.
barrywales01: Name: Blessed Garba

Address: 23 unity rd

City: Ikeja

State: Lagos

Country: Nigeria

Zipcode: 23401

READER: that looks like the building's name
READER: who is the physician and your daughter's full name and room number
READER: you told me you sold "stuffs" to pay for this.
READER: now u needed money for the car shipping or something
READER: i am confused
barrywales01: I only paid for more oxygen and not the sugery.
barrywales01: I don't have it yet and the dr will help me get the money so i could get the car's and makse sure everything is fixed so i can get home to you.
READER: yesss
barrywales01: So what now?
READER: I have nothing to summate at this point. I guess my writing up there was a waste of time. But I thought it was pretty clearly executed.. I also asked for some proof you live in NY... and why wouldnt you have the physician's name......
READER: I am kinda insulted about all this
READER: your accent is Nigerian
READER: first and foremost
READER: I have a pretty good idea how this came to be dumped in my lap but I can't prove it so I will keep my thoughts to myself
barrywales01: Just don your part and leave the rest to me ok.
READER: lol
READER: WHAT
barrywales01: I need to get to bed now.
READER: good night
barrywales01: Please don't let me down oka.
barrywales01: Kisses and Hugs.

Scammer Barry Wales CAUGHT in the Act!

Another Reader comment and story comes to us:

Add this asswipe to the never-ending list of bottomfeeders.......... IM is morgan_more35@yahoo.com and also morgan_more34@yahoo.com

HERE IS THEIR INSTANT MESSAGE SESSION:

This guy is 23 years-old, single, and his real name is Ikechukwa Isaacs

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Barry Wales (7/7/2011 11:04:32 AM): Yeah she is in the hospital now and they dr said she needs to under-go a surgery but i need to pay for the bills before they can get on with treatment and i ask if i could pay the little i had until i get my check but they refuse.

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 11:08:52 AM): I better get back to the hospital now.

READER (7/7/2011 5:43:45 PM): Hello Barry

READER (7/7/2011 5:44:00 PM): Hows your daughter

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:45:42 PM): I'm really bad they won't get on with the surgery until i have the money.

READER (7/7/2011 5:46:29 PM): sorry to hear that

READER (7/7/2011 5:46:43 PM): i hope you get it from your business soon

READER (7/7/2011 5:47:06 PM): that issss why you are over there, isnt it?

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:47:47 PM): Yeah but haven't gotten my pay check yet.

READER (7/7/2011 5:48:43 PM): maybe somneone in NY can help u

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:49:55 PM): I have called my friends and nothing.

READER (7/7/2011 5:51:05 PM): sorry to hear that

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:51:37 PM): Thanks READER.

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:51:47 PM): I don't want to lose my daughter.

READER (7/7/2011 5:53:02 PM): im sure you dont

READER (7/7/2011 5:53:22 PM): you wouldnt have that shit if you were in NY

READER (7/7/2011 5:53:35 PM): certain hospitals have to take us

READER (7/7/2011 5:53:40 PM): money or no money

READER (7/7/2011 5:53:45 PM): at least for now anyway

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:53:52 PM): You are right READER.

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:55:30 PM): I feeling like i am going to lose my little girl.

READER (7/7/2011 5:56:12 PM): i pray not

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 5:56:22 PM): Me too.

Barry Wales (7/7/2011 6:21:13 PM): I understand.

READER (7/7/2011 6:21:24 PM): but this is not the first time someone comes on and talks to me and then all of a sudden has a crisis

Barry Wales (7/9/2011 12:16:33 AM): READER that means you are not helping just say a yes or no.

Barry Wales (7/9/2011 10:30:32 PM): I'm sorry READER i knew that,that's why i just decided to stop bugging i want all this to be over so we can be together and you will know i true want you.

Barry Wales (7/9/2011 10:34:36 PM): I don't know what else to do.

Barry Wales (7/9/2011 10:37:58 PM): And i don't have anyone right now but you.

READER (7/10/2011 12:00:21 AM): brb.. gotta let my dog back inside

READER (7/10/2011 12:02:55 AM): why did u buzz me

READER (7/10/2011 12:03:03 AM): if you arent going to talk

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:11:29 AM): Sweetie am here

READER (7/10/2011 12:12:56 AM): me too

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:13:29 AM): So what's up?

READER (7/10/2011 12:13:52 AM): as innnnnn....??

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:14:54 AM): In helping me baby.

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:17:11 AM): Just in case you change your mind baby and want too here is the info and you also have my cell.

READER (7/10/2011 12:17:21 AM): I admire your tenacity for working me and not giving up

READER (7/10/2011 12:17:30 AM): what info

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:17:49 AM): The Dr's info.

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:17:55 AM): Name: Blessed Garba Address: 23 unity rd City: Ikeja State: Lagos Country: Nigeria Zipcode: 23401

READER (7/10/2011 12:18:41 AM): that looks like the building's name

READER (7/10/2011 12:19:02 AM): who is the physician and your daughter's full name and room number

READER (7/10/2011 12:19:23 AM): you told me you sold "stuffs" to pay for this.

READER (7/10/2011 12:19:38 AM): now u needed money for the car shipping or something

READER (7/10/2011 12:19:46 AM): i am confused

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:20:17 AM): I only paid for more oxygen and not the sugery.

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:21:04 AM): I don't have it yet and the dr will help me get the money so i could get the car's and makse sure everything is fixed so i can get home to you.

READER (7/10/2011 12:24:33 AM): yesss

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:25:30 AM): So what now?

READER (7/10/2011 12:28:24 AM): I have nothing to summate at this point. I guess my writing up there was a waste of time. But I thought it was pretty clearly executed.. I also asked for some proof you live in NY... and why wouldnt you have the physician's name......

READER (7/10/2011 12:28:41 AM): I am kinda insulted about all this

READER (7/10/2011 12:29:21 AM): your accent is Nigerian

READER (7/10/2011 12:29:27 AM): first and foremost

READER (7/10/2011 12:30:41 AM): I have a pretty good idea how this came to be dumped in my lap but I can't prove it so I will keep my thoughts to myself

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:32:12 AM): Just don your part and leave the rest to me ok.

READER (7/10/2011 12:32:47 AM): lol

READER (7/10/2011 12:33:43 AM): WHAT

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:33:59 AM): I need to get to bed now.

READER (7/10/2011 12:34:03 AM): good night

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:34:14 AM): Please don't let me down oka.

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:34:25 AM): Kisses and Hugs.

READER (7/10/2011 12:34:37 AM): ye

READER (7/10/2011 12:34:41 AM): good night

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:35:06 AM): Will you give me a call after you get it sent?

READER (7/10/2011 12:35:19 AM): please stop hounding me

READER (7/10/2011 12:35:29 AM): i do not appreciate this at alllll

READER (7/10/2011 12:35:44 AM): You must have me mistaken for an idiot

Barry Wales (7/10/2011 12:36:15 AM): Sweet dreams READER.

READER (7/10/2011 12:36:30 AM): right now it will be a nightmare

Scammer Posing as Captain Anita Kirk - to try and steal your money

A subscriber received this email from someone posing as a US Military captain - she uses very big multiple syllable words, but then writes this "My names are Anita Kirk," clearly showing that she or he, does not have command of the English language. Also the links provided a links that take you to a 'bogus' page for the BBC - just yet another way to make you think you are seeing and reading something real


Greetings,

Surprise and skepticism would be your natural reaction to my email.But do not, for what my emails convenes would be of mutual benefit sooner than you can imagine if ONLY you give it the attention it deserves.The internet I do wholeheartedly agree seems the most unusual medium to communicate a mutual rewarding transaction because of the nefarious activities of some unscrupulous persons, whose sole intention here is to scam others. However, this is different as the internet, sure remains obviously the only perfect medium for reaching out to you after securing your email address from your domain. considering the situation that I have found myself.

I demand a high degree of honesty and unquestionable trust for us to work thing out for good. I am an American. My names are Anita Kirk, a member of the U.S Army, assigned to USARPAC Medical team.I had been here since the onset of the war, though the war has abated because of my profession I am among the those asked to stay back Iraq.

A visit to the sites listed below, would reveal to you classified information concerning my personal experience and role serving out here in pursuit of my military career with the U.S 1st Armored Unit, which was at the fore-front of the warfare in Iraq.In directly you to visit the sites, I am mindful of certain critical information and for good reason whole prefer to hold back on these when you would have hand an insight into hat am talking about and what I want us to perfect. What I would be sharing with you after you would have acquainted yourself with the information on the listed sites would be of mutual benefit.

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(VOA NEWS)

I would appreciate that your urgently get back to me after visiting the recommend sites,as it is bound to enhance your better understanding of the mutual proposal I intend to discuss with you.I hope I am not making a great mistake in contacting you,as I do not know if you will misconstrue it's essence or even go public by exposing the transaction. But all in all, providence has led me to you and I believe you would be mature and discreet in handling such an important matter.Note that, the essence of this message is strictly for mutual benefit between you and I and nothing more.

Your email response after visiting the listed web.sites; would trigger my confidence in you. And there would be no-holes-barred when I tell you more about how I intend for us to execute and perfect the transaction that I propose here.Do endeavor to send me the following personal detail,as it would re-enforce my zeal to carry on with you.(1). Full Names (2)Residential or contact Address (3)Occupation(4)Age .Finally,I do not need your telephone number as I cannot call or talk you.we can only communicate through email.I will await your thoughts via email.

Warmest Regards,

Capt. Anita Kirk..

Yahoo CHAT session BEGGING for $$$

HERE IS AN ACTUAL CHAT SESSION FROM ONE OUR READERS WHERE HER SCAMMER WAS BEGGING HER FOR MONEY!


morgan_more35: but to be honest if i have a problem and i ask you for to help with anything will you help?
READER: no
READER: i cant
morgan_more35: i see people has make you that way right?
READER: for the most part, yes. And the fact that I am having a hard time finding work
morgan_more35: ok
READER: and cannot afford to send money to anyone except my son
READER: and bills
morgan_more35: so where is your son
READER: Florida
morgan_more35: where in florida
READER: getting ready to enter Police Academy
READER: Gainesville,
morgan_more35: oh ok
READER: outside Jacksonville
morgan_more35: ok
morgan_more35: so whats your sons name
READER: David Lee
morgan_more35: ok
morgan_more35: you chat with him on yahoo?
READER: Facebook
morgan_more35: ok
READER: Are you leaving?
morgan_more35: so you said you are a king of godly woman right?
READER: I love God and Jesus
READER: but I am not a nun
READER: lol
READER: I like beer
READER: and i smoke
morgan_more35: oh you smoke?
READER: havent had a reason to quit, yes
READER: i would for that special person
READER: havent had one
morgan_more35: ok
READER: brb
morgan_more35: ok where are you doing
morgan_more35: where are you going
READER: m back
READER: had to use the restroom
morgan_more35: ok
READER: i really need to get back to my school work
READER: but i wanted to say hi
morgan_more35: ok thats good
morgan_more35: nice to meet you
READER: yeah. likewise
morgan_more35: i know you will say no
READER: im here
morgan_more35: can you please help with just $100 i am so demn forking hengy here
READER: HEll no
morgan_more35: i am begging you okay

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Morgan M Scammer on TAGGED.COM

Hello, How are You doing? I am MORGAN..I am a Single GUy, and i am new on here. Your Profile Caught My Interest. What's Opinion about getting to know one another and Sharing Pics sometime. I have a lot to Offer lets Share pics and some good Words and Memories. I am not on here Much but you van always get me on Messenger. I am Looking for something real as my profile states, so if you are real then my Screen name is morgan_more34 at yahoo. I hope to Hear from You there soon so we can share pics.morgan

Hello, How are You doing? I am morgan..I am a Single guy, and i am new on here. Your Profile Caught My Interest. What's Opinion about getting to know one another and Sharing Pics sometime. I have a lot to Offer lets Share pics and some good Words and Memories. I am not on here Much but you van always get me on Messenger. I am Looking for something real as my profile states, so if you are real then my Screen name is morgan_more35 at yahoo. I hope to Hear from You there soon so we can share pics.morgan

GET THIS SCUM BAG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Before he gets someone to send him money.....

And the one he used on me: Hello, How are You doing? I am morgan.I am a Single guy, and i am new on here. Your Profile Caught My Interest. What's Opinion about getting to know one another and Sharing Pics sometime. I have a lot to Offer lets Share pics and some good Words and Memories. I am not on here Much but you van always get me on Messenger. I am Looking for something real as my profile states, so if you are real then my Screen name is morgan_more35 at yahoo. I hope to Hear from You there soon so we can share pics.moragan

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Thomas Mario Metwally Nigerian Scammer

Thank you for your site! I almost made the biggest mistake of my life. I met this guy on Yahoo messenger - Thomas Mario Metwally - 52 (said he was 49) who know for real - had a son - a CIVIL ENGINEER. He is in Lagos, Nigeria working on a construction contract. He is from Milan Italy, got a visa to the US for 5 years about to expire. Anyway, he was like the answer to my dreams, loving words, wanted to take care of me, had money, wanted to come to Canada, wanted me to help him invest his money, told me how he envisioned our wedding, that he wanted to take me to Paris, France for a honeymoon. I was hooked - totally blown away. He told me about his son and how his wife had died of breast cancer - he had been married 18 years etc.. He told me that on August 16th it was his son's Ben birthday and I shared how I always made birthdays special and ask what he was getting Ben for his birthday. He made it out that he had nothing planned and didn't know what Ben wanted. Why didn't I ask Ben? So we arranged to have Ben on line the next day so I could talk to him. Who knows who I was talking to. Anyway, Ben wanted a notebook computer. I thought it strange that if his father was wealthy why didn't he have one already, but I let it go, so I mentioned it to Thomas. He suggested we go have on it and that he could pay for the whole thing since he had invested all his money in the project and had very little spending money. So I sent him $500. And this is where it started. I had revealed all the bad relationships I had had, that I was independant and a business person, which I am. Which is why when he started telling me about the problem he was having financing the project, I started asking lots of questions. He didn't like this. I even raised the question of him being a scammer since I've heard of them happening and I had started to look things up on the net. I couldn't understand with a construction contract with the government that they would only give you 60% of the money up front and expect the contractor to finance the rest until the job was completed. I know here it is paid in progress payments as to completion, with 10% to 20% held back which is usually the markup. So I started asking questions again. Then he hit me up for $10,000. Well, my suspicions came up, I told him I didn't have the money which I don't, but he pleaded. When I finally said no and told him not to contact me again he said that it was okay, he found the money - he sold some properties and had found someone - a "mr. francis" to finance the rest. So I thought okay, maybe everything was okay. So I started talking to him again. Then 2 nights ago, he tells me "mr. francis" didn't come through, that now he need $15000.00. And to think I actually went to a friend - who trusts me- lied and got the money. It is beside me now, waiting to be wired.

But someone, maybe God, was looking out for me because he made a mistake. To try and show how much he loved me he was going to send me a package, what was my address. I gave it to him. Anyway, the package never arrived. Then I found a note on my mail box (I live in an apartment) that a parcel had tried to be delivered but I wasn't home. Please call this number etc. I called and was told that the flowers had gone back to the florist and the delivery company would contact them to redeliver. All yesterday I didn't hear from them. So I called them this morning, and was told that apparently it was a fraud order. Well that got me thinking and nervous again. So I went on line and found this site. The stories are so similar and the guideline you give - where if you answer yes to any of these questions - well I answered yes to almost every one. These guys are good. They really know how to play you - I was only on the dating site for 3 days and he picked me up. I'm giving up dating sites.

What I can't understand is how they get the documents to look so real. He sent me a picture of his passport, his american visa document and a copy of a Contract Award Certificate. How would the average person ever be able to tell that they're fake. So the name he used is Thomas Mario Metwally, cell # 234-812-7995227

Now of course, if he isn't a scammer, I've lost the man of my dreams.

So now, I will have to go about securing my life, changing phone numbers and emails. But at least I didn't send him the $15000.00. Thanks Again!