A reader sent us this email to warn those of you in Colorado and Washington State:
My daughter (40) decided to try internet dating for the first time. She went on a well-respected site, posted a profile and was immediately contacted by what appeared to be a nice, responsible, all around good guy. He is foreign (German) and claims he has difficulty with English but trying to learn the language ( the reason I'm using present tense I will explain later). Recently divorced, three jobs, ranch in Colorado, loves horses (her line of work). Then he proceeded to tell her stories of heroic acts that he recently performed. "Saving a US Marine family lost in the wilderness inspite of falling with his horse, killing the horse and severely injuring himself. He still managed to drag himself and rescue the whole family", just one of many. Because of all his heroic actions, he was made an honorary US Marine. She bought all his stories, he had such an unpresumptuous way of telling them. War Hero, everybody loves him, etc. etc. etc. Within days he told her he loved her (even though they hadn't even met) and wanted to meet as soon as possible. One week later he showed up on her doorstep, using his advanced computer skills to get her address and phone #. For just a split second when she went to greet him the first timeshe describes a weird look in his eyes (she described it as insanity) then it was gone. He moved right in on her, convincing her he couldn't live without her now that he had found her. Slowly she began finding little inconsistencies in his stories, his behavior became abusive, especially if questioned about anything. He began showing cruelty to her pets, everything on the red flag list. He threatens suicide or threatens to kill her on a regular basis when she has tried to leave . He has ruined her business, ran off any friends (most are afraid of him). She is now in hiding, waiting for legal actions to be taken against him. Hopefully he will soon be deported so that she can once again walk in the daylight without fear that he will harm her or her loved ones. It will take years for her to repair the damage he accomplished in 8 short months. This story is current and as yet unfinished, he's still there in the shadows until he is caught and charged for his crimes. He is once again trawling the internet for another victim to "save" him. The purpose of this is to warn others out there to be very careful, there is a monster hiding behind the screen waiting for you to give him the opportunity to harm you. A general discription; frequents Military and Equestrian dating sights, German (not US citizen), heavy accent, poor english. Middle 40's, medium build, 5' 8"-6', reddish hair (always severe military cut), ruddy complexion, blue-grey eyes, wears glasses, tattoos, hangs out at Starbucks, chain smoke's little cigars, spends most of his time on computers (extremely skilled, tech savy,hacks for fun), like's anything military (very interested in guns), military imposter w/uniforms and war stories just one of several costumes, cowboy, Search & Rescue. Has victims in Colorado and Washington State.
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Friday, January 27, 2012
Monday, January 16, 2012
Rose Dosi - Nigerian Scammer
Here is yet another email from an obvious Nigerian scammer that said she found me on a dating site online:
Dear friend,
I am more than happy in your reply to my mail, how is your day today i hope all is well and fine with you including your health and job. My name is Miss Rose Dosi and i am 24 years, single and never been married, i am from Sudan in Africa but presently residing in the missionary church here in Senegal where i ran as a refuge due to the political civil war that took place in my country. I am in sufferings and pains here in this camp, i really need help from someone by encouraging me and good advice in life and to help me to come out from this situation, again to help me get my money, because my late father deposited some amount of money for me in the Bank and he used my name as the next of kin.
My late father Dr. Ellison Dosi, worked as the Chief Executive Officer of (E E C PLC) in Port Sudan in Sudan. During the war, the rebel loyal to one of the greedy business associate of my late father attacked our house one early morning and killed my mother and father in a cold blood. It is only me that is alive now as the only child of my parents and i managed to make my way to this country Senegal by the help of UN army where i am living now in the missionary, headed by a Reverend Father, i used his office computer to send you this email and i only enter his office when he is less busy in his office.
I would like to know more about you, your likes, dislikes, your hobbies and what you are doing presently. i like to meet understanding, loyal, sincere, truthfully, kindly, friendly and more to that, a man of vision. Attached here is my picture.
Nevertheless, I don't have any relatives now that i can go to, all my relatives ran away in the middle of the war and there is no contact, the only person i have now is Rev.Father who is heading the missionary. He has been very good to me since i came here but l am not living with him, l am living in the women quarter.
Please i will like you to call me through the Rev.father's phone number (+221778463094) as you call, tell the Rev.Father that you wish to speak with me, definitely he will send for me in the refugee hostel. Regarding my condition here as a refugee, i don't have any right or privilege to anything be it money or whatever because it is contrary to the law of this country.
I want to go back to my studies because i only stopped at my first year before the tragic war that cause to my being in this situation now took place. Honey i really believe in face to face, i like to meet you in your country but there is know way i will be coming to your country now, i need to have my (International passport) before i can be coming to your country.
Dear friend, everything is money, i will offer you 15% (percent) of the total money for compensation immediately after the transfer. Please l would like you to know that l have my late father's death certificate here with me which l will like to send to you to assist me, because when he was alive he deposited sum amount of money with a Bank which he used my name as the next of kin. The amount in question is (2.750,000,00 Million British Pounds) Two million seven hundred and fifty thousand Pounds.
I will like you to assist me to transfer this money to your account and from it you will send some money for me to get my traveling documents and air ticket to come over to meet you. I can't withdraw the money my self due to some conditions of things here in this country which i am not permit to do, and the money can't be transferred here in Senegal.
I have got in touch with the bank through mail and also told them about my plans to withdraw this money,i also got them aware of the death of my father and they have acknowledged it with all they confirmation. However, the bank manager advised me to get in touch with a very responsible person who will stand on my behalf as a foreign partner/trustee over the transfer since l am presently of refugee status over here and wouldn't be permitted to handle this amount of money, they also let me know about the bonds which they signed with my father that the money will be handled to me in bulk amount which means that l should decide on if i should continue with the bank or not.
Meanwhile,i will give you the personal contact address of the bank Manager so that you will contact the bank Manager direct for his direction and guidance concerning the transfer in my next mail.
I just have to let you know about this so that you can assist me to be my trustee on this money, like l have said, l want you to call me because l have allot to tell you. l kept this secret away from people in the Missionary here, the only person that knows about it is the Reverend Father Jude Williams because he is like a father to me.
Have a nice day and think about me. Dear friend , this is the email address of the Reverend (reverendjudewilliams@yahoo.com) i hope to hear from you soonest.
Yours forever,
Rose Dosi.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Kelly Love - Nigerian Scammer
A reader sent us 2 emails from "Kelly Love" (what an obviously fake name). First is his introduction letter, and then his money request.
From: Kelly Love <klove197@yahoo.com>
Subject: More About Me
To: "XXX">
Date: Thursday, December 15, 2011, 6:26 AM
Hello Dear,
My name is Kelly Love.. /Caucasian. I'm Self Employed Structural Engineer studied the course Structural Engineer with a Master Degree, I have a good sense of humor. I live inAtlanta GA, USA Age (60yrs).I'm a widower been widowed for 8 yrs now. I have just only 1 lovely son (Paul)(19 years old). After the sudden and devastating death of my wife, Who was a wonderful, sweet and caring wife and mother..Have been single for the past 8 years, am a man with a strong heart, loving, caring,honest, compassionate, affectionate, i also believe in God. I like swimming, camping,fishing, reading & writing, tennis, Football, Basketball, Baseball, golf, swimming etc,Thanks for your email. I feel so happy and contented to read back from you. Well , I said a little about myself on the website and in my first email to you on the site. My Believe is that there's one woman out there that can help me find that Love and affection again..Someone who is Understanding,Kind,good sense of Humor,Loving,caring, honest,sincere, passioniate and affectionaite ,The Bible says" Seek the Kingdom of God first and every other thing shall be added on to you" I've sort the kingdom so i'm waiting for one of my other things thats my Dream woman and i believe when i have a woman that is honest and caring,she wouldn,t hurt my feelings and emotion which i have for her.Most people doesn't know what it take to hurt anothers once feelings and emotion and how it feels so i'm not into playing games. I enjoy my job. I do work for firms, for government buildings and some huge companies.I have lived in Atlanta all my life. Paul ( my son ) goes to college here in the city, he goes from home. you know what it takes to be together for over 18 years now and wouldn't love to miss each other so much. He lives here in my house with me. I drive a 2010 Toyota Camry, well i was the only son of my parents so i was so close to them but you know they,died while i was 12 years old and i never had the chance to get that special care from them for so long. i used to live with my father's uncle who treated me so hard, i had to work to fund my self to school back then, i was fortunate to get a scholarship who helped me through school. I lost him too on the way and it become so hard for me but i thank God who i am today .i haven't had much care in my life , when my wife came into my life to show em that care my parents was unable to show me , i lost her too .. So here i am now, wishing and hoping you would give me all that care i have always longed for. My grandparents were Irish.My favorite color is blue (Sky Blue),I do like country music, I like romantic and historical movies. Sunday is one of the day i dont like , i lost my mother on Sunday and i lost my wife too on Sunday , so i dont feel so much happiness on that day. I have always been with my son for so long and we are very close.Basically that's all on me for now unless if you're willing to know more,then you can ask!.meanwhile i'll love to know more about yourself also....Well thats if about me and Looking forward to hear from you soon
I care,
Kelly
From: Kelly Love <klove197@yahoo.com>
Subject: ACT FAST MY LOVE
To: "XXX">
Date: Friday, December 23, 2011, 12:14 PM
My Dearest Love,
Am very happy. I am very glad to know that you are still with me in this hard time and I feel very happy to find out that someone truly loves me for who I am and not for any other worldly reason.I am going through alot of pains at the moment and i cant withstand it for much longer, Please love i don't want you to think i am imposing myself on you but i think a friend in need is a friend in deed..Am a man of my words and of high ethics and scruples and wont go back on my word.I have given you my word back of repayment and trust me i wont let you down if you take this step of faith to see me through this..I will be ever grateful to you forever as well as my son(Paul)..I hate to see him go through this with me..His well being and happiness means alot to me and i believe if you help me get this sorted out,everything will be fine.
I want you to understand that I am doing everything possible to recover on time here. The doctor has promised that he is going to help me get the money out once you send it via Western Union. He however said that I can't leave the hospital premise yet and that it will be collected by the hospital cashier if only you send it to the name MARY RICHARD,He said is that you split the money and send it twice in 2 different Western Union Wallmart store. He said there are usually problems when people want to send large sums of money at once. Since he has had several cases like his, he said there is no problem. you just need to help go to a Western Union Walmart store like 10 miles away. So, the person you are sending to now is:
Here is the info
MARY RICHARD
87 READING AVE
IKEJA LAGOS 23401
NIGERIA
So as soon as you get the funds sent , just send me the Western Union details. Information's that i need on Western Union will be 1.Mtcn number its will be on the receipt given to you at Western Union for the both transaction..2...sender's name and address 3...Total amount you sent down here for the both transaction 4...Text question and answer for both transaction so i can get it as soon as possible. I cant withstand the pain my love
I await your response. I love you.....
Kelly
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Blessing Kones, Nogerian Scammer's Email
I got this yet again from a Nigerian scammer. I am not on a internet dating site, have no profiles anywhere, and they assume I am a male. Of course they said they saw my profile on a internet dating site and how handsome I am. (Yeah, ok)
My dearest, I am writing this mail to you with tears and sorrow from my heart. With due respect , trust and humanity, i appeal to you to exercise a little patience and read through my letter i feel quite safe dealing with you in this important business having gone through your remarkable profile, honestly i am writing this email to you with pains, tears and sorrow from my heart, i will really like to have a good relationship with you and i have a special reason why i decided to contact you. I decided to contact you due to the urgency of my situation. My name is Miss.blessing Kones, 27yrs old female and i am from Kenya in East Africa. Light in complexion, single( never married )but presently i am residing here in Dakar Senegal refugee camp. My father Late Dr Kipkalya Kones was the former Kenyan road Minister. He and Assistant Minister of Home Affairs Lorna Laboso had been on board the Cessna 210, which was headed to Kericho and crashed in a remote area called Kajong'a, in western Kenya. The plane crashed on the Tuesday 10th, June,2008. After the burial of my father, my stepmother and uncle conspired and sold my father's property to an italian Expertrate which they shared the money among themselves and live nothing for me. One faithful morning, I opened my father's briefcase and found out the documents which he have deposited huge amount of money in one bank in Scotland with my name as the next of kin because when he was alive he deposited some amount of money in a leading bank in Europe which he used my name as the next of kin. The amount in question is $3.8M(Three Million eight Hundred Thousand Dollars). I have informed the bank about claiming this money and the only thing they told me is to look for a foreign partner who will assist me in the transfer due to my refugee status here in Senegal. They also told me that my late father's instuction to the bank is that the money would only be release to me when I am married or present a trustee who will help me and invest the money overseas. I am in search of an honest and reliable person who will help me and stand as my trustee so that I will present him to the Bank for transfer of the money to his bank account overseas. I have chosen to contact you after my prayers and I believe that you will not betray my trust. But rather take me as your own sister or we can get married immediately i come to your country. My dearest, thing are very bad for me here in the refugee camp where i am living today. People are dying here day after day because of lack of food and poor medical treatment. Even one of us died last night and was buried today. I am afraid of what i am seeing here. I don't know who it will be her turn tomorrow. I was first year student in the university studying law before the ugly incident that killed my parents that put me in this horrible place i found myself toady. This place is like a prison as we are only allowed to go out on Monday and Friday of the week as given by the united nation rules and regulation here in Senegal. It's just like one staying in the prison and i hope by Gods grace i will come out here soon. n this refugee we are only allowed to go out two times in a week. Its just like one staying in the prison and i hope by Gods grace i will come out here soon. i don't have any relatives now whom i can go to and the only person i have now is Rev Chris Johnson who is the pastor of the (Christ for all Churches) here in the refugee he has been very nice to me since i came here but i am not living with him rather i am leaving in the women's hostel because the refugee have two hostels one for men the other for women. Please i want you to call me with our Pastors Tel number(00221-768-783-107) if you call, tell him that you want to speak with me he will send for me in the hostel to come and aswer your call. As a refugee here i don't have any right or privilledge to any thing be it money or whatever because it is against the law of this country. I want to go back to my studies because i only attended my first year before the traggic incident that lead to my being in this situation now took place Though you may wonder why I am so soon revealing myself to you without knowing you, well I will say that my mind convinc ed me that you may be the true person to help me. Moreso, I will like to disclose much to you if you can help me to relocate to your country because my stepmother have threaten to assinate me and that is why I stop my studies and run away before I finally find myself in the united nations camp here in Senegal where iam living now. You will also help me to place the money in a more profitable business venture in your Country. However, you will help by recommending a nice University in your country so that I can complete my studies. It is my intention to compensate you with 20% of the total money for your services and the balance shall be my capital in your establishment. As soon as I receive your positive response showing your interest I will put things into action immediately. In the light of the above. I shall appreciate an urgent message indicating your ability and willingness to handle this transaction sincerely. AWAITING YOUR URGENT AND POSITIVE RESPONSE . Please do keep this only to your self for now untill the bank will transfer the fund. I beg you not to disclose it till i come over because I am afraid of my wicked stepmother who has threatened to kill me and have the money alone ,I thank God Today that am out from my country (KENYA) but now In (Senega Refugee Camp)i thank God for the life of Rev as he has been helpful to me since i became close to him after his visitation to the clinic when i was sick in the camp. He has assisted me in several ways sending emails from his office. I have the documents for the claims. Yours Sincerely
Blessing Kones blessingkones22@yahoo.com
Monday, July 25, 2011
Another Day, Another Scam this time from Ghana
Watch out for a lady named Lawer Linda Mauwginuwua from Accra, Ghana. She promised me the world, broke my heart and took my money. Her photo is a 31 year old white woman who has blond hair and a voluptuous figure and smile. My guess is that the pirates in Ghana took her photo off the Internet and scammed me. I got several documents from her which appear to be fraudulent. She is extremely attractive and her messages were as sweet as they could be. She refuses to return emails now that she has my money. Please advise if there are any organizations that can help me recover my money and prosecute these pirates.
BELOW ARE SOME OF LINDA'S EMAILS TO OUR READER:
This was sent on 6/8/11.
Hello Dearest,
Why cant you understand that i cant fly without paying the hospital this is all i want you to know,I love you and want you to know that i have always wished and want to be with you sweetie,Just understand this for us to be together i am not the one who is holding you for money..I don't need your money and i will not use your money for anything all i want and need is you..Just understand this for us to be together i am tired and don't know what to say to you again for you to believe that i will be with you,i Cant fly without the hospital bill pay..Anyway take care for now and stay blessed..
Love always,
Linda
Note - I never sent the $300 and she has stopped emailing me. her email easygoinglinda1@yahoo.com
THE FOLLOWING TWO PHOTOS OF HER ARE BADLY PHOTOSHOPPED WITH HER HEAD ONTO ANOTHER'S BODY - ONE WHERE SHE GOT ARRESTED AND NEEDED HELP AND THE OTHER WHEN SHE WAS SUPPOSEDLY IN THE 'HOSPITEL" AS SHE CALLED IT
This was sent a week before.
Hello sweetheart,
I am crying now and don't want to stay here any longer sweetheart,I love you and do want to get out of here to be with you and make you the happiest man alive forever baby,No one will help me with the rest and i cant do anything to get the rest sweetheart..I want you badly beside me darling..Please do something sooner for me to be out of here because i am dying over here i hate being here lonely sweetheart,I love you and you are all i need and want beside me baby..I was feeling pain all over my back when the accident happened so i was rush to the hospital and be take good care baby..I will be out of here as soon as i get the $300 and pay them my love,I love you soo much and cant wait to hold you and make you happy each and every day darling,I want to get out of here to be with you and make you happy forever baby..take very good care of yourself for me now and stay blessed..
Love always,
Linda
This was sent on 5/20/11. She attached the picture with her in shackles with it. That cost me $500 to allegedly get her out of jail. The transfer of gold ownership was what she said she needed. I was a sucker and it makes me sick to be conned like this.
Hello My Dear,
Sorry if i did say anything to hurt you it was because i am very afraid to go to jail baby,I beg them and they gave me one more day for that to be done which is tomorrow 4pm otherwise i will be going to jail baby and this is the last favor they are giving me which is is one more day,baby please do understand that i will be with you and nothing will happened again take this step as your last step for me and i will be in your arms for us to live a happy life together my love,Tony Many things have happened in the past for us and many things have changed. It doesn't matter how much time has gone by. Time could never make my feelings for you weak or fade away. Now all i need from you is one more chance to be together ,Love, trust, understanding, affection, honesty, tolerance and loyalty are key factors for a successful relationship. Every time I think of you my heart misses a beat sweetheart,I love you and i don't want to go to jail baby please do understand this because of our love sweetheart,I promise you that i will be in your arms as soon as the second document is done and i am out of here darling...take care for me and stay blessed..
Love always,
Linda
footnote - She never did anything to try to come be with me. She told me she had bought a ticket from KLM airlines. When I called them, thy had no record of her buying a ticket. It appears that the lady in the pictures is not real. My bet is that these pirates picked the picture off the Internet and she is not aware of her picture being used in a scam. I doubt that she got a dime of my money and that makes it all the worse.
A Reader's Dating Site Nightmare (not with a scammer)
Hello,
I’ve just cancelled my membership to the dating sites I was using, and will never use them again after my free dating site experience lost me my job, and nearly my home. I wanted to tell my story, to try and warn others to be very careful and look for the dangers of people on these sites who have simply no intention of committing themself to a relationship.
I was on a free dating site back in April and met a man named Gareth, who had set up a very nice profile and stated himself as divorced. We got chatting and although he lived 125 miles away, we decided that we got on so well that we would meet up. Gareth said he would travel down to my home, and we had a wonderful weekend together. It was love at first sight, and when he went home Gareth said he was sure that I was the lady for him and that he wanted to live with me. I felt over the moon, and having spent years hearing about other people meeting their soul mates, couldn’t believe this was actually happening at last to me.
The following week though, I noticed that although Gareth had said that he wasn’t on Facebook, when I searched, his profile came up – with a photo of him with a blonde lady. In his list of friends, I also found a profile of the same blonde lady with a picture of him. When he called, I questioned him about it, and he said that this was just an old photo that he’d forgotten to change, and he hadn’t logged on to Facebook for ages. I was still puzzled that he wouldn’t accept my friend request, but because I had fallen so much for him chose to give him the benefit of the doubt. When I asked him if he was still in a relationship, he said that he had split up from this lady before Christmas, and although he was still in occasional touch, they were not an item an more and he lived at his mothers.
Gareth came down for two more long weekends, and we started to plan our new life together. The one thing that did bother me was that every time I got up to go out of the room, Gareth would quickly take his phone out of his pocket and start texting, and I also felt uneasy because he refused to tell any of his family or friends about me with the excuse that he wanted me ‘properly on the scene’ first. Every time I had any worries, Gareth would send me wonderful long emails telling me he was totally committed to me, to trust him and that he wanted to be with me more than anything else. He gave me a holiday for my birthday cruising round the Greek Islands which was scheduled for July, and I just couldn’t believe that I’d been given such a wonderful birthday present as this was the first time for me that I had ever been spoilt so much. Gareth then suggested that I put get my house valued and put it on the market, which I did – with the idea that I’d be moving into his house in Wales that his tenants had just vacated. Gareth had said to me that I would need to invest all of the £70k from the sale of my house into his property and go on a joint mortgage with him, and he arranged a mortgage in principle with the bank. I was very surprised when I got a cash buyer immediately, and called Gareth straight away to ask him if he was still sure about me selling. He said that he had never been more sure of anything and told me to accept the offer, which I did. At the end of May, after agreeing this with Gareth, I gave in my notice at work with the idea that I would then be able to go on the holiday in July, and move to Wales after that.
Then suddenly cracks began to appear, and this is where my trusting nature let me down. I went up to Wales for the weekend to see the house, and noticed that Gareth had become considerably anxious and on edge. I tried to put it down to pressure of his work, but he just wouldn’t relax, and for the first time I realised that me going up to Wales had suddenly made all that was happening very real for him. By the Sunday I was tearful, because something inside was telling me that there was something wrong, but Gareth wouldn’t discuss it.
The following morning I got up to eagerly read an email I’d got from Gareth, expecting his usual loving words, but instead it was just a one line email saying to cancel the house sale and that he was not going to pursue the relationship any further. I just froze to the spot, feeling absolutely sick. My hands were shaking so much with the shock I could hardly type a reply. It turned out that he had never really finished with his previous relationship and he had decided to stick with her as it was what he knew. He had basically just got cold feet and backed out. He even told me later that the holiday he was taking me on, he would now be taking his previous girlfriend instead. His cruelty was just unbelievable. It didn’t take much to work out that he must have gone straight round to her house after dropping me off at the station to see if she would take him back before he ditched me.
I paid a very high price for my trusting nature, and falling in love with a man with commitment phobia. I managed to get my house back as I cancelled the sale, but I couldn’t get my job back as they paid me in lieu of notice. I have now been left on benefits, desperately searching for work to try and pay my mortgage. My mother was forced to give me her life savings to help get my mortgage down to a reasonable level. Gareth not only destroyed me, but caused my family real hardship as well.
My word of warning to anyone using these dating sites is please, don’t rush into any big decisions until the other person shows some concrete commitment by their actions, and not by their words. I have lost almost everything due to trusting this man’s word, while he walked away unscathed and even made sure he had his old girlfriend’s bed to jump straight back into. Look for the warning signs, and if they don’t want you to meet their family or friends question it, and if they start declaring undying love at the first meeting, it’s probably not sincere. Above all, always question any sign that a previous relationship is still hanging around as ‘friends’.
Thank you for reading this, and if writing my story can stop one other person going through the Hell that I’ve been through using dating sites then it will be worthwhile.
I’ve just cancelled my membership to the dating sites I was using, and will never use them again after my free dating site experience lost me my job, and nearly my home. I wanted to tell my story, to try and warn others to be very careful and look for the dangers of people on these sites who have simply no intention of committing themself to a relationship.
I was on a free dating site back in April and met a man named Gareth, who had set up a very nice profile and stated himself as divorced. We got chatting and although he lived 125 miles away, we decided that we got on so well that we would meet up. Gareth said he would travel down to my home, and we had a wonderful weekend together. It was love at first sight, and when he went home Gareth said he was sure that I was the lady for him and that he wanted to live with me. I felt over the moon, and having spent years hearing about other people meeting their soul mates, couldn’t believe this was actually happening at last to me.
The following week though, I noticed that although Gareth had said that he wasn’t on Facebook, when I searched, his profile came up – with a photo of him with a blonde lady. In his list of friends, I also found a profile of the same blonde lady with a picture of him. When he called, I questioned him about it, and he said that this was just an old photo that he’d forgotten to change, and he hadn’t logged on to Facebook for ages. I was still puzzled that he wouldn’t accept my friend request, but because I had fallen so much for him chose to give him the benefit of the doubt. When I asked him if he was still in a relationship, he said that he had split up from this lady before Christmas, and although he was still in occasional touch, they were not an item an more and he lived at his mothers.
Gareth came down for two more long weekends, and we started to plan our new life together. The one thing that did bother me was that every time I got up to go out of the room, Gareth would quickly take his phone out of his pocket and start texting, and I also felt uneasy because he refused to tell any of his family or friends about me with the excuse that he wanted me ‘properly on the scene’ first. Every time I had any worries, Gareth would send me wonderful long emails telling me he was totally committed to me, to trust him and that he wanted to be with me more than anything else. He gave me a holiday for my birthday cruising round the Greek Islands which was scheduled for July, and I just couldn’t believe that I’d been given such a wonderful birthday present as this was the first time for me that I had ever been spoilt so much. Gareth then suggested that I put get my house valued and put it on the market, which I did – with the idea that I’d be moving into his house in Wales that his tenants had just vacated. Gareth had said to me that I would need to invest all of the £70k from the sale of my house into his property and go on a joint mortgage with him, and he arranged a mortgage in principle with the bank. I was very surprised when I got a cash buyer immediately, and called Gareth straight away to ask him if he was still sure about me selling. He said that he had never been more sure of anything and told me to accept the offer, which I did. At the end of May, after agreeing this with Gareth, I gave in my notice at work with the idea that I would then be able to go on the holiday in July, and move to Wales after that.
Then suddenly cracks began to appear, and this is where my trusting nature let me down. I went up to Wales for the weekend to see the house, and noticed that Gareth had become considerably anxious and on edge. I tried to put it down to pressure of his work, but he just wouldn’t relax, and for the first time I realised that me going up to Wales had suddenly made all that was happening very real for him. By the Sunday I was tearful, because something inside was telling me that there was something wrong, but Gareth wouldn’t discuss it.
The following morning I got up to eagerly read an email I’d got from Gareth, expecting his usual loving words, but instead it was just a one line email saying to cancel the house sale and that he was not going to pursue the relationship any further. I just froze to the spot, feeling absolutely sick. My hands were shaking so much with the shock I could hardly type a reply. It turned out that he had never really finished with his previous relationship and he had decided to stick with her as it was what he knew. He had basically just got cold feet and backed out. He even told me later that the holiday he was taking me on, he would now be taking his previous girlfriend instead. His cruelty was just unbelievable. It didn’t take much to work out that he must have gone straight round to her house after dropping me off at the station to see if she would take him back before he ditched me.
I paid a very high price for my trusting nature, and falling in love with a man with commitment phobia. I managed to get my house back as I cancelled the sale, but I couldn’t get my job back as they paid me in lieu of notice. I have now been left on benefits, desperately searching for work to try and pay my mortgage. My mother was forced to give me her life savings to help get my mortgage down to a reasonable level. Gareth not only destroyed me, but caused my family real hardship as well.
My word of warning to anyone using these dating sites is please, don’t rush into any big decisions until the other person shows some concrete commitment by their actions, and not by their words. I have lost almost everything due to trusting this man’s word, while he walked away unscathed and even made sure he had his old girlfriend’s bed to jump straight back into. Look for the warning signs, and if they don’t want you to meet their family or friends question it, and if they start declaring undying love at the first meeting, it’s probably not sincere. Above all, always question any sign that a previous relationship is still hanging around as ‘friends’.
Thank you for reading this, and if writing my story can stop one other person going through the Hell that I’ve been through using dating sites then it will be worthwhile.
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Jeanie Going to 'suicide herself with DOZE pills' according to friend
ok, after sending jeanie 850 bucks for a ticket to come see him, he got this from her "friend"
Subject: Fw: this is wendy the jeanie friend
This is what I got from Jeanies friend last night after sending Jeanie 850 usd to come home to me for gate money wendy02wendy02@yahoo.com>
From: Wendy Wendy
Date: Tue, 15 Mar 2011 20:03:15 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: this is wendy the jeanie friend
hello sir , i hope this is right email to you sir , i am wendy the jeanie friend who is keeping jeanie in my home since last sunday , jeanie is my friend and i know her very much she is being my friend since long time when she got here in costa rica from ecuador , sorry i do not wrote good ingles but i think you will understand this little that i wrote here because my first language is espanol , the keep point of my wrote letter to you is that she has being crying and she want to commit sucide with a lot of doze tablet that kills , she was robbed with Mr bernard at the western union street in porto limon this evening , i went to work and i just saw with policia car , the policia is being drive around since this evening after she was robbed at porto limon , the policia just dropped her in my house now and she rushed to my kitchen to sucide herself because she was robbed by some cocaine dealer gangster who hangs around the western union street , i told jeanie yesterday when she said you was going to send her travel money through western union , i told her that moneygram is better because it is safer country side than western union , though she gave excuse that moneygram is far for mr bernard to help her in collect but i told her she should stop using western union because it is close to gangsters hang outs. now i am just helping her to send this message to you because she said she can not contact you any more and she want to sucide herself because she lost the money to gangsters and she said you will not believe her anymore , she did not tell me yet how much you send to her sir but she keep crying and trying to take over doze tablet , i can not take this any more , i do not want someone to die in my house sir , i think i will let her go back to her home , i tried to stop her but she fight me and keep crying , please sir this is over my power sir and i do not want to go to jail if she kill her self, i told her to stop that the policia still doing investigations on the gangster and they can still find them and get the money back to her but you do not listen to any of my words sir , please tell me back if this is right email for mr flyod ., thank you sir ., WENDY
Subject: Fw: this is wendy the jeanie friend
This is what I got from Jeanies friend last night after sending Jeanie 850 usd to come home to me for gate money wendy02wendy02@yahoo.com>
From: Wendy Wendy
Date: Tue, 15 Mar 2011 20:03:15 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: this is wendy the jeanie friend
hello sir , i hope this is right email to you sir , i am wendy the jeanie friend who is keeping jeanie in my home since last sunday , jeanie is my friend and i know her very much she is being my friend since long time when she got here in costa rica from ecuador , sorry i do not wrote good ingles but i think you will understand this little that i wrote here because my first language is espanol , the keep point of my wrote letter to you is that she has being crying and she want to commit sucide with a lot of doze tablet that kills , she was robbed with Mr bernard at the western union street in porto limon this evening , i went to work and i just saw with policia car , the policia is being drive around since this evening after she was robbed at porto limon , the policia just dropped her in my house now and she rushed to my kitchen to sucide herself because she was robbed by some cocaine dealer gangster who hangs around the western union street , i told jeanie yesterday when she said you was going to send her travel money through western union , i told her that moneygram is better because it is safer country side than western union , though she gave excuse that moneygram is far for mr bernard to help her in collect but i told her she should stop using western union because it is close to gangsters hang outs. now i am just helping her to send this message to you because she said she can not contact you any more and she want to sucide herself because she lost the money to gangsters and she said you will not believe her anymore , she did not tell me yet how much you send to her sir but she keep crying and trying to take over doze tablet , i can not take this any more , i do not want someone to die in my house sir , i think i will let her go back to her home , i tried to stop her but she fight me and keep crying , please sir this is over my power sir and i do not want to go to jail if she kill her self, i told her to stop that the policia still doing investigations on the gangster and they can still find them and get the money back to her but you do not listen to any of my words sir , please tell me back if this is right email for mr flyod ., thank you sir ., WENDY
Scammers in Costa Rica too
This one in costa rica Limon' is wicked and a total professional. She actually worked money out of me because she's very good at what she does. Lie.
Jeanie Curl Harris : plays as a waitress in costa rica who wants to leave. And
needs air fare and gate money. $1800 LOST
Then gets mugged at western union. Costa rica
From: Jeanie Curl jeanie.curl@yahoo.com>
Date: Sat, 19 Feb 2011 15:06:30 -0800 (PST)
Hello , how are u doing this evening ? i am happy to see ur message here with your lovely picture, you look cool and great in ur truck , u have good truck too , here are my pictures for you and i hope you like them too . i will chat with you in a while . hugs and kisses |
The real person in these photos is obviously not the photos of the real SCAMMER - the scammer stole them from a social networking site
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Email from Scammer Tina Diane
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Another New Scammer Hits Our Reader
From: evelyn damoah reallove3232@yahoo.com>
Rachel James Must have Survived Her Hospital Stay! She Comes Back from the Dead!
Rachel James had her 'doctor' send this hospital bill (from Nigeria in US dollars by the way) to one of our readers several months ago... http://dangersofinternetdating.blogspot.com/2010/12/rachel-james-hospital-bill-and-doctors.html
SHE HAS RESURFACED and changed her last name to the name of our reader! Here is the series of emails she recently sent:
Hello my love, My boss is an ex-nigeria finance minister,that took alot of money from nigeria government during is ruling time in nigeria government as nigeria finance ministers, so he needed someone that is capable and trustworthy to help him to move the money to his own account for investigation and i pleaded to you,to help the ex-nigeria finance minister to move the money out of nigeria to your own country. i request this from you just because of the faith, love and i also wanna be with you in state, with the believe i have in you,i know that you are someone that is capable for this business,and he the ex-nigeria finance minister promise to re-word you back in any percentage you may demanded from him.. My love i believe this is a great opportunity for us. Rachael. Really Love Bob.
HIS RESPONSE TO HER WAS:
Well tell him to put it in that account I sent you and as soon as I see its in there I will follow his instructions. Ok?
THE NEXT DAY SHE WRITES THIS, CALLING HIM "MY HUSBAND"
My husband the boss said the money can't be transfer into this account, He said the money can be transfer into Equity account. My husband let me know if you have Equity account and if you don't have go and open the account. Rachael really love Bob.
HE RESPONDS AGAIN
Sorry that's the only account you can use. Maybe he can put enough in there to get you here then you can help him.
AND SHE COMES BACK WITH:
My Husband i think this is the last opportunity for me to be with you. My Husband kindly understand me and let give this a try and i believe this will surely come to real this time, The last chance , my love you just need to get the Equity account and my boss will make a transfer into it.. Please try this and this is the last chance. Rachael
THEN OUR READER SENDS HER THIS!
Why do you think I'm so foolish? I get this account and he puts a large sum to launder his dirty money and then I'm liable for it! My government will certainly put me in jail! You've never planned to come stay with me and you are only a thief. You stole everything I loved and now your trying to put me in jail! May God have mercy on your wicked soul!
WICKED SOUL??? WE LOVE IT!
AND IF THAT IS NOT ENOUGH TO STOP HER, SHE WRITES HIM AGAIN!!!
Good Morning my love BOB, Just try and give me a last chance for this to see if this is for real and i believe this will surely comes to reality one day, why can't you just try me.
Rachael love bob
SHE HAS RESURFACED and changed her last name to the name of our reader! Here is the series of emails she recently sent:
Hello my love, My boss is an ex-nigeria finance minister,that took alot of money from nigeria government during is ruling time in nigeria government as nigeria finance ministers, so he needed someone that is capable and trustworthy to help him to move the money to his own account for investigation and i pleaded to you,to help the ex-nigeria finance minister to move the money out of nigeria to your own country. i request this from you just because of the faith, love and i also wanna be with you in state, with the believe i have in you,i know that you are someone that is capable for this business,and he the ex-nigeria finance minister promise to re-word you back in any percentage you may demanded from him.. My love i believe this is a great opportunity for us. Rachael. Really Love Bob.
HIS RESPONSE TO HER WAS:
Well tell him to put it in that account I sent you and as soon as I see its in there I will follow his instructions. Ok?
THE NEXT DAY SHE WRITES THIS, CALLING HIM "MY HUSBAND"
My husband the boss said the money can't be transfer into this account, He said the money can be transfer into Equity account. My husband let me know if you have Equity account and if you don't have go and open the account. Rachael really love Bob.
HE RESPONDS AGAIN
Sorry that's the only account you can use. Maybe he can put enough in there to get you here then you can help him.
AND SHE COMES BACK WITH:
My Husband i think this is the last opportunity for me to be with you. My Husband kindly understand me and let give this a try and i believe this will surely come to real this time, The last chance , my love you just need to get the Equity account and my boss will make a transfer into it.. Please try this and this is the last chance. Rachael
THEN OUR READER SENDS HER THIS!
Why do you think I'm so foolish? I get this account and he puts a large sum to launder his dirty money and then I'm liable for it! My government will certainly put me in jail! You've never planned to come stay with me and you are only a thief. You stole everything I loved and now your trying to put me in jail! May God have mercy on your wicked soul!
WICKED SOUL??? WE LOVE IT!
AND IF THAT IS NOT ENOUGH TO STOP HER, SHE WRITES HIM AGAIN!!!
Good Morning my love BOB, Just try and give me a last chance for this to see if this is for real and i believe this will surely comes to reality one day, why can't you just try me.
Rachael love bob
Another Scammer RALI AKIDY sent directly to us!!
From: Rali Akidy akidy2@yahoo.com>
To: cyberdatedanger
Sent: Tue, Feb 15, 2011 4:46 pm
Subject: contact the bank for the transfer
please my dear you should try to avoid or contact anybody about this transfer because some people this time are very rude in such big money, because they might plan to cheat on me as a small girl i am ? We need to build trustworth relationship.please my dear, my own share to any business of your choice.this is what i need from you to help me proceed this money into your account,call me anytime you want, i am puting all my trust on you please do not disapoint me,You should understand that I have no intentions of delaying this matter anylonger. I want to come over to your country as soon as possible, and I believe that you are nolonger a strenger but a family member. I want you to see this money as yours,This is bank information where this money was deposited, please you have to send them mail immidaitely after you finished reading my mail. and also i will forward your email to them immidaitely to tell them that you are the one that i choose to help me, please contact the bank in their Email address bellow.
THIS IS THE BANK CONTACT
BANK MANAGER IS MR. ENGE KOFI BANQUE INTERNATIONALE POUR LE' COMMERCE (BICICI) PRIVATE LINE: +225 6699 6501
BANK EMAIL : bicicicicotdivoire@inmail24.com
PRIVATE EMAIL: bicicicicotdivoire@yahoo.fr
Please Contact the director Mr Enge Kofi and tell him that you are writing unbehalf of me Ms Ralii Akidy who's father is dead and have money deposited in their bank.Feel free to email the director because he have already told me to look for someone who will help me make the money transfer, there will wellcome you.and give them more details of you and your address ,
I will be waiting for your email after contacting the bank
Your's Faithful Love Ralii
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